Post # 1
Editing post to maintain anonymity (yes…it’s a far stretch…but just in case!). For those who missed, basically a snarky text message in response to a child-free wedding (it’s been known for the past 10 months that it will be child-free). Thanks for all of your responses! It’s been therapeutic! 🙂
Post # 3
She’s kind of a bitch, isn’t she? All nice in the beginning then you tell her that her crotch spawn isn’t welcome and she gets all snotty. All I’ve gotta say is it’s her loss. She can enjoy her evening at home with her family, changing shitty diapers while you’re partying it up at your wedding. I wouldn’t even give her, or her kid, another thought. She obviously doesn’t care much for you.
Post # 4
Try to not let it get you down. The people who are VERY important to you will be there and that’s all that matters. You can’t please everyone.
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Post # 6
It’s her choice. You were nothing but nice to her in your reply. The rules you’ve set are the rules, and I think it’s good that you aren’t opening a huge can of worms by allowing exceptions, especially for non-family children.
Post # 7
This is a good time to practice not worrying too much about everyone else. If you let other people’s concerns get to you on your wedding day it will really mess with your enjoyment, so start getting into that bridal mindset!
Also, what a B!
Post # 8
I had someone do the same thing. Her daughter was FOUR and she had never ever left her side – in FOUR YEARS. So she begged and pleaded for her to come and we had to say no, she she pulled the whole, “I’m not coming” thing.
Post # 9
It’s fine for a guest to decide they can’t come without their kid, but it is completely unacceptable for them to be rude about it.
Honestly, I’d reply back perfectly happily saying “too bad! Hopefully we’ll see you another time”..she’s probably hoping you’re off feeling really badly about it, so responding like that will be much more irritating for her, but nothing she can complain about!
Post # 10
Maybe you should text her back, “Sorry you can’t make it! Maybe you could read this while you’re home….” Then link to Miss Manners and Emily post.
This is what’s wrong with people today. The rude, obnoxious witch crossed ettique and common sense lines and YOU feel bad about it. STOP FEELING BAD!!! Just be glad this Oaf wont be at your celebration.
Post # 11
Be honest. Not going to hurt my feelings…
No. I won’t be making it, and *spouse’s name* will not be coming now, either.
Was this truly a b!tchy reply… or just a statement of fact. Perhaps you were reading a bit more into it… or maybe she is truly a passive-agressive person.
Don’t know… doesn’t really matter.
Fact is some folks will be able to come some won’t. Some will be ok with your Adult Only Reception, some won’t
It is what it is… move on. Enjoy your day. Their loss really
PS… Be thankful they didn’t reply YES and then stiff you by not showing up
Post # 12
@This Time Round: Yeah, I can see where you’re coming from. Knowing this person and the way they’ve acted towards other people, I’m 99.9% sure that this is her being passive aggressive.
It’s definitely a good thing she won’t be there. I just need to get over my people-pleasing ways!
Post # 13
@MDLH: I’ve been having the same issues with my family 🙂 The ones who can come can come and the ones who can’t can’t. People like that think that by them not showing up that your wedding will be ruined. For me, I know it’s hard to not come when you have kids, but that’s not going to stop me from enjoying my wedding the way I want it to be. I’m sorry she responded so rudely. You probably don’t want anyone that rude at your wedding anyways.
Edit: we had someone passive agressively respond to it via a fb status update. The words were “Sorry friends and family in the D.C. area! I won’t be visiting after all. Little bean isn’t allowed at the wedding I was going to attend! I’ll just have to visit with you all someother time.” The friends and family she was referring to were friends and family of HERS that wouldn’t have been at the wedding anyways. So basically she was using the wedding as an excuse to visit friends as hers. She didn’t want to come in the first place.
Post # 14
@Woodstock: Oh, that fb status would make my blood boil! How rude AND immature! I guess it just bothers me that some people automatically assume that their children are invited to everything.
Post # 15
I would respond like other PP’s suggested. “Oh, that is too bad. Thanks for letting me know!” or something along those lines. I understand that people want their children to feel included, but honestly, will the child remember or care if they were there or not? No. It is just the parents that feel slighted that other people don’t find their children as amazing as the parents do. IMO most wedding should be adult only affairs and parents should be thankful that it is a built in excuse to have a night to themselves and not have their world revolve around their children 24/7.
Post # 16
i just don’t get the whole thing. i have a 2 year old and i much prefer getting to have kid free nights. the last thing i want to do at a wedding is worry about keeping my toddler entertained and out of trouble. nope. i want to have a few drinks and adult conversation.
we are having kids at our wedding, but i’m insisting on an adults only rehearsal dinner. i don’t want a bunch of toddlers running around at a fine dining restaurant. my two definite bridesmaids said they’re fine with it. the other one (she’s a maybe given her travel distance) said she won’t come if she can’t bring her girls (not in a bitchy way, she’s just very uptight leaving her girls anywhere because of some things from her childhood.)