(Closed) No children, except for my Flower girls and Ringbearers?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
21 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am also in the same position as you, due to a small budget wedding i cannot afford to have friends children at my big day, The only children that will attend the day are those that are in the bridal party. 

I have explained this to all my friends with children, one was a little put out, but the others were relieved that they would be able to enjoy the day relax and have a few drinks.

I have thought about including a polite message on my invites just to remind people that children cannot attend. 

Good Luck





Post # 4
1285 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Since they are part of the wedding, I think that should be understood as OK. Like you said, you won’t make everyone happy-there are parents who think their children should be able to go everywhere they do, and others who are greatful for the fun adult only evening.

Post # 5
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe write something along the lines of “Two seats have been reserved in the names of ________ & ________”


I am only having 2 flower girls at a kids free event too. Although I am not writing “adult only”, I am inviting only SPECIFIC people.

Hopefullt people can read and honor the invite

Post # 7
358 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve gotten lucky.  All the cnildren in the family are children of cousins, except for three, and those are the three we want at the wedding.  Two are my fiance’s counsins (his uncle is quite a bit younger than his siblings), and one is my (one and only) nephew.  So we’re only inviting aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews/nieces, but no second cousins, etc.  No one can complain about the kids who will be there, because they’re all more closely related than the others.


That’s my hope, anyway…

Post # 8
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

As long as you have a clear cut in which kids are invited or not (and you do – wedding party only) you aren’t doing anything wrong. People might still get offended but it seems like there is always something for people to complain about. 

Post # 9
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

we’re doing this too. 2 necies and 2 nephews, that is it.

On the website rsvp, there is a max of 2 so, hopefully that gets the point across. We also wrote very small on the invite in parens no children please, and addressed the invite only to the parents (and a few teenagers we’re allowing, we added their names on the invite as well).

Post # 10
1430 posts
Bumble bee

I did the same thing. Adult only with the exception of my 1 flower girl. I think because they are in the bridal party people will understand.

Post # 11
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@kellsweddingbells:  People probably won’t mind if they’re your nice and nephew, especially since they’re in the weding party. Anybody who would kick up a fuss is being unreasonable.  

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