Post # 1
I need help on how nicely put no children in my wedding invite. We really don’t mind having older children there (like 10 and up) but we want the toddlers to stay home so that the adults can have a good time.
We were orginally going to have the kids in a separate room with babysitters and food. If we did not do this it would save us about AT LEAST $500 (room rental $200, three babysitters at $60 each, and food). I am trying to cut costs when possible!
Post # 3
There’s lots of older posts on this, try doing a search!
ETA – That sounds kinda b*tchy, I didn’t mean it that way!! 🙂
Post # 4
I have heard that it’s a “no-no” to put anything on the invitation about the children not being invited (I’m also having an adults-only wedding, and asked the same question.). I have heard proper etiquette is to specifically address the invites to the adults (i.e. Mr. and Mrs. Jay and Mary Smith), not anything that says “the Smith Family” or just last names. There are a few bees who have said they put an FAQ section on their wedding websites that addressed the “no children allowed issue”. I’m planning on doing the same.
Post # 5
You don’t put that on the invites. You address them to the people you are inviting (Mr. and Mrs. so-and-so) and hope people respect you enough to not just write it in. If they write in kids, you’ll have to address them individually.
Post # 6
I agree with menobride! We addressed the RSVP cards AND invitation envelopes to only those invited. In our case, we limited children to first cousins only. There are 2 couples who are bringing babies (under 6 months old), but they are both travelling from quite a distance and are breastfeeding, so we made exceptions for them.
If you don’t have the budget, only put the names of the adults/older children on the invites, then if people write in other names, call and politely say, “we would love to see Johnny and Susie another time, but unfortunately, our venue has space limits and we have tried to be fair to all those with small children. We hope that you can still come and enjoy a night out just the two of you!”
Post # 7
I’ve sent out not 1/8th of my invitations, inner envelope addresses to invitees, plus this on RSVP:
Due to limited seating, in some cases we are unfortunately not able to include all of the members of your family. Invitations are directed to those named on the inner envelope of your invitation.
And am STILL already up 4 seats in non-invited kids but guests assuming their kids are in. I am already ready to give up, the only way I could be clearer would be exceptionally rude.
Post # 8
If possible, limit the amount of information on the paper invitation itself, forcing people to visit the website, where you can say bluntly that children aren’t invited.
A friend’s website used this wording, ” As our wedding and reception location are not suitable for children, we kindly ask that no one under the age of 21 attend. We are happy to recommend sitters in the area!”
They are inviting kids to the rehersal dinner, though. Onthe “Rehersal Dinner” info, it says, “We’d like to invite everyone to an informal rehearsal dinner at Pete’s Tavern on Friday night from 7pm until midnight. Unlike our wedding, children are welcome to join.”
Hope that helps!
Post # 9
I had an 18+ wedding but I only put it on the wedding website and told the parents to tell everyone!
Post # 10
I went to a wedding this summer that requested no children. The invites were worded from the bride and groom, not the parents. At the bottom of response cards in small print, it stated, “The couple respectfully requests that children not be in attendance”. They did this because the relative’s property that they were getting married on had several ponds and everything was taking place outside. It IS against etiquette however so much of what modern brides do is. I plan on putting the same on our invitations.