(Closed) No children invited

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We wrote on our invitation ‘Adult Reception’ and people got the message.  I think you might be on the line inviting some people’s children and not others though.

Post # 4
3253 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My sister did what MissAsB did and it worked out just fine. I think that if you don’t invite children, then no children should be there, though (excluding your flower girl and ring bearer).

I would personally feel a little put out if I was a good friend of yours who got a babysitter if there were kids running around, even if they are family. If you feel that this is the only way to go, I would stick with IMMEDIATE family’s kids, not your aunt’s kids, cousin’s kids, etc. 

Post # 5
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You don’t.  You simply don’t invite any of the others.  If people RSVP or bring people who aren’t invited, they’re rude, not you.

Post # 6
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Address the invites to the invited guests only and as MissAsB wrote.. just say adult reception.  Dont feel bad at all!

Post # 7
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you are going to find a lot of people coming back to you to ask if they can bring their kids if they hear others are bringing their kids.  I would start practicing a nice way to tell them only certain children are invited.  Other then that “Adult reception to follow” should suffice.

Post # 8
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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@starrynight: Ditto. Well said.

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@mrscdeiasal: There are always going to be individuals upset with you regardless of what decision you make regarding kids. I’m in the same situation as you, and we are having just a few young cousins attend whose parents will be traveling far from out of town. They will be there plus the kids in the bridal party – no other kids will. I think most parents would be glad to have a night out without the kiddies. You address your invites to who you are inviting from each household and indicate on your invite how many seats are reserved for that household.

For us, if there are some who we invite who disagree with our decision, tough cookies. We’ve made this decision based on our situation and our families and this is what works best for us. If that doesn’t work for people, then they can stay at home.

Post # 9
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We listed how many seats we had reserved for them and had people spread the word that it was an adult only reception. We only had a handful of cases where children might have come, so that’s why we didn’t write it on the invite.

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