Post # 1
Is this wording OK? Also, should I put it on the Save-The-Date Cards, since it is a destination wedding?
Due to the limited seating and size of the venue, only those Children in the wedding party will be attending the ceremony and dinner reception. Thank you for your understanding…
It is a destination wedding (Vegas) and there is only room for 50 people. Also, I don’t like the idea of spending $40+ for a kid to eat…I don’t care if people can’t find sitters. They don’t need to come if they can’t. If people want to bring their family of 4 or 5 and then my aunt Margaret can’t attend…well I’d rather they didn’t come. I may sound bitchy, but that’s the breaks! This is an intimate affair, not a bon fire beach party! My FH and I are footing the bill 100% on our own and simply can’t afford to have a 300+ guest deal. We’d rather keep it simple with our closest family and friends there!
Post # 3
you could write “adult reception” on the invite
Post # 4
I think that sounds fine! You could say “Thank you for your kind consideration” as well.
Post # 5
@MlleBrielle: Thanks! you both were quick to reply! I was still editing. 😀
Post # 6
Honestly, I think you should either (1) say “adult only reception” or (2) say nothing and put it on a wedding website (if you’re having one). Invitiations/STDs are sent to guest and people invited, and are not designed to say who isn’t invited. You should spread the word through other means that children are not invited, or take the advice of a PP to say “adult only.”
Post # 7
You shouldn’t say “adult only reception” or “no kids” or anything of the sort. It’s rude to point out who isn’t invited.
Address the invite to “Joe and Sally Smith”, without “and family” or “Billy, Suzie, and Janie” on the second line. If somebody RSVPs for 5 after that, you can call them up and say that you’re sorry, but you can’t accomodate children. It sounds like you’re okay if people can’t come, so as long as this wouldn’t exclude immediate family you’re good to go.
Post # 8
i dont think you should mention that there are children attending full stop because everyone will have an excuse as to why their children should be allowed if they see there is a chance you will allow some children
stick to adult reception only and on the day if anyone has anything to say its simply a matter of their parents are in the wedding party
Post # 9
I think it should be mentioned on the STD to give people a head’s up. If I were a parent invited and it didn’t mention anything to the contrary I would assume my kids are invited and may not look at the wedding website. (This may not follow ettiquite rules, but this is what I find to be the most practical)
Post # 10
I would put “adult reception,” but by just specifying the adults on the invitation they should realize that adults are the only ones invited. Or writing “We have reserved 2 seats in your name” on the RSVP card.
Post # 11
I’m with Miss Orchard. Also, since you’re having a small number of guests, why not custom-print your own RSVP cards specifying who’s invited/expected without overtly saying who’s not? That’s what we did and, so far, it seems to be working just fine. (We also are looking at 50 – 55 guests and around 29 parties, so I just ran the fully-customized reply cards off my home printer.)
This is the wording we used:
We’ve saved you two seats! (please let us know who’s coming)
wlll be there will bells on!
__ Sorry, neither of us can make it. But we’ll be thinking of you!
All that being said, a friend of the Groom-to-be still asked if he could bring his tots. Groom-to-be replied directly saying, ‘sorry, adult-only.’ But that was left between them and off line.
Post # 12
I agree with the other posters who said you should just address it to the adults and put “X seats reserved in your honor”. People should get the hint, particularly because it’s a wedding in Vegas. I know when my best friend said she was hosting a Destination Wedding, I just assumed my son wasn’t invited, and I am happy to get a “free weekend away”. If I was invited to a wedding in Vegas, particularly, no way would I be planning to bring my kid.
Post # 13
I’m going to put on there “Thank you for understanding this is an adult only affair” I’m hoping thats polite and discreet enough hehe
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We’re having an adults only wedding, and I’m contacting all the moms personally- that way there is NO confusion! If someone has to bring their child to Vegas (!?!), see if the hotel has babysitting services they can use.