(Closed) No Children, Please – Should this be on

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

you could write “adult reception” on the invite

Post # 4
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think that sounds fine! You could say “Thank you for your kind consideration” as well.


Post # 6
13012 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I think you should either (1) say “adult only reception” or (2) say nothing and put it on a wedding website (if you’re having one).  Invitiations/STDs are sent to guest and people invited, and are not designed to say who isn’t invited. You should spread the word through other means that children are not invited, or take the advice of a PP to say “adult only.”

Post # 7
338 posts
Helper bee

You shouldn’t say “adult only reception” or “no kids” or anything of the sort.  It’s rude to point out who isn’t invited.

Address the invite to “Joe and Sally Smith”, without “and family” or “Billy, Suzie, and Janie” on the second line.  If somebody RSVPs for 5 after that, you can call them up and say that you’re sorry, but you can’t accomodate children.  It sounds like you’re okay if people can’t come, so as long as this wouldn’t exclude immediate family you’re good to go.

Post # 8
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i dont think you should mention that there are children attending full stop because everyone will have an excuse as to why their children should be allowed if they see there is a chance you will allow some children

stick to adult reception only and on the day if anyone has anything to say its simply a matter of their parents are in the wedding party

Post # 9
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think it should be mentioned on the STD to give people a head’s up. If I were a parent invited and it didn’t mention anything to the contrary I would assume my kids are invited and may not look at the wedding website. (This may not follow ettiquite rules, but this is what I find to be the most practical)

Post # 10
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would put “adult reception,” but by just specifying the adults on the invitation they should realize that adults are the only ones invited. Or writing “We have reserved 2 seats in your name” on the RSVP card.

Post # 11
104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m with Miss Orchard. Also, since you’re having a small number of guests, why not custom-print your own RSVP cards specifying who’s invited/expected without overtly saying who’s not? That’s what we did and, so far, it seems to be working just fine. (We also are looking at 50 – 55 guests and around 29 parties, so I just ran the fully-customized reply cards off my home printer.)

This is the wording we used:

We’ve saved you two seats! (please let us know who’s coming)

__ YES

     __ Jane

     __ John

          wlll be there will bells on!

__ Sorry, neither of us can make it. But we’ll be thinking of you!

All that being said, a friend of the Groom-to-be still asked if he could bring his tots. Groom-to-be replied directly saying, ‘sorry, adult-only.’ But that was left between them and off line.

Post # 12
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the other posters who said you should just address it to the adults and put “X seats reserved in your honor”. People should get the hint, particularly because it’s a wedding in Vegas. I know when my best friend said she was hosting a Destination Wedding, I just assumed my son wasn’t invited, and I am happy to get a “free weekend away”. If I was invited to a wedding in Vegas, particularly, no way would I be planning to bring my kid.

Post # 13
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m going to put on there “Thank you for understanding this is an adult only affair”  I’m hoping thats polite and discreet enough hehe

Post # 14
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We’re having an adults only wedding, and I’m contacting all the moms personally- that way there is NO confusion! If someone has to bring their child to Vegas (!?!), see if the hotel has babysitting services they can use.  

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