Post # 1
Im sure this has been covered about 1039393 times but Im far too lazy today to search old posts 🙂 (At least Im honest, right?!)
Do I put our no children policy on the invitations? If so, where & how? All of our friends are aware of our policy (and quite excited about it) but there are a few cousins that have anywhere from 2-5 kids that I dont talk to – ever. Theyre only invited because I was forced to by family. lol. Im worried theyll show up with the whole lot of kids – and its a Destination Wedding So that would be very akward!!
The policy is stated on our wedding website but how do I address this on the invites?
Post # 3
On ours I said something like “Ceremony at 4:00 with an adult reception to follow)
Post # 4
I know it’s ‘bad etiquette’ to put ‘Adults Only Event’ etc. on the invitations, but I would rather do that and be certain that no children would turn up, then follow the appropriate etiquette and deal with an awkward situation on my wedding day/the days leading up to my wedding day.
Post # 5
BrideonabudgetLauren has it correct. “Adult reception to follow”
– address the inviation to the people invited
– on the reponse card we have reserved _____places for you – write in 1 or 2
Post # 6
I had a line on our RSVP cards that said “Please make child care arrangements.” Combined with word of mouth, it worked. No one brought their kids!
Post # 7
Invite those who are invited by name, and follow up privately with anyone who responds for an univited guest.
It is never polite to mention who is not invited.
Post # 8
You can’t put “no kids” on the invite. Technically you should just address them to the person who is invited. We had our reception cards designed to say “Please join us for an adult evening of Dinner, Drinks, & Dancing”
Post # 9
Great thanks everyone for the help. Its greatly appreciated!! I like the “adult reception to follow” idea but to me, that leaves it open to allow children to come to the wedding which we do not want either. I really love the “we have reserved 2 seats in your honor. __ of 2 will be attending” Thanks again 🙂
Post # 10
If you don’t put it in some form on the invitation, somebody will bring their kids. It will happen. I’ve seen it at every adult wedding I’ve been to and the bride is all flipping out because there’s kids there when you could have made a polite mention on the invite.
Post # 11
you don’t put it on the invitation. Simply address the invitations to Mr and Mrs X, which indicates only the adults are invited. and family indicates the children are invited. None of my guests had an issue figuring out who was invited and who wasn’t.
Post # 12
@Ashley_P: Agreed!!!! I actually found this while searching the bee and really liked it. Its straight to the point & no confusion. People dont pay attention to who the invite is addressed to and not everyone is up to date on wedding ettiquete (or cares!). There have been multiple threads on the bee about this exact problem. Since we are having a Destination Wedding, I want it to be clear. If they dont want to come bc of our policy then more power to them. Lol. Makes our day a little cheaper 🙂 LOL!! The majority of our friends are either bringing their nannys or bringing grandparents to watch the kiddos for that night while still enjoying a full week on the beach with the kids.
Post # 13
I put ” adult only affair “on our invites
Post # 14
“Adult Only Dinner and Reception to Follow”
Our guests with children had no problems making arrangements for their little ones and really loved the evening out with adults.
We didn’t lose any guests because of our request.