Post # 1
So, this isn’t a huge deal, but I am feeling a little bummed today. I found out last night that a proposal is not going to be happening on or around Christmas or New Years, as I previously thought A week or two ago, when discussing Christmas presents, SO mentioned that he has most of my gifts, but my one big gift isn’t in yet and he didn’t know if he’d be able to get it by Christmas. I thought this was the ring, and that even if he didn’t get it by Christmas, it was ordered and he’d probably have it by New Years.
Well, nope, not gonna happen. It turns out he was talking about the ring, but he hasn’t found one yet. He told me last night that he hasn’t been able to find one yet that fits my criteria and his budget (which is surprising to me because my main criteria are yellow gold and sapphire – not that complex). He told me that he had hoped to have it by Christmas, but he wanted me to know that he is still actively looking.
While he was sweet about it and I’m happy he’s looking and we will likely be engaged soon, I’m realizing that I had my heart set on the holidays and now I’m bummed because I have no idea when it will happen. Has anyone else had a holiday disappointment? I know I’m fortunate to have a guy who wants to marry me and is actively looking and planning, but I just wanted to vent/whine a little.
Post # 3
Maybe he is throwing you off…but then again why don’t you just look at it that the best is yet to come. 🙂 I know that’s easier said then done, but he is actively working on it..so if he doesn’t already have it and planned to surprise you by throwing you off, then he’s half way there. Hope you’ll be distracted with all the holiday cheers!
Post # 4
I understand why you would be disappointed (although the possibility of him trying to really surprise you is still definitely there). I had waiting disappointment last week. Boyfriend took me on a cruise for our birthdays…I was sure it was going to happen…and it didn’t. He saw I was upset & ended up telling me that he doesn’t have a ring yet either, but he plans to propose sometime in the next 6 months. 🙁
So I definitely understand your frustration: holidays seem like a perfect & romantic time to profess undying love & committment, and with those jewelry commercials, it makes it that much worse!
I’m sure it will happen for you soon, though. 🙂
I bet it’s a lot sooner than you think!
Post # 5
Aww! Just think about it, soon enough he’ll ask and remember this may be your LAST unengaged Christmas and New Years. 🙂
Post # 6
Like you said… at least you know what is going on with it all. And he is listening to what kind of ring you want!! Those are really good things, just remember it will happen!
Post # 7
I am sure it is coming soon and it will be exactly what you wanted- don’t be down too much about it !
Post # 8
If he’s really not trying to throw you off, tell him to check into Natural Sapphire Company (www.thenaturalsapphirecompany.com) …we found they had a TON of setting options and are very friendly and reasonable with their custom work. Hang in there!
Post # 9
@SadieBee:Ughhh me neither unless he’s REALLY trying to throw me off! He was buying my stocking stuffers last night and didn’t know what to get and I said, “Well, I can think of something you can put in there.” and he said “I’m not putting a ring in your stocking, stop it!” and I dropped it but felt sad. Later, I texted him saying, “Well at least I know now that it’s not coming and I can get over it because I’m legit sad.” and he ignored the text! I didn’t bring it back up. If it REALLLY wasn’t coming, I think he’d have reiterated that in a reply text… but him not saying ANYTHING still makes me a bit suspicious. Not enough to get my hopes up though! :'(
Post # 10
I completely understand your disappointment. I have a feeling I’m going to be feeling it in about two days as well. But on the bright side, he is looking for a ring and on top of that, the ring that you told him you wanted, which is really great 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks for all the comments 🙂 You make a good point that he’s really trying to find something that I’ll love, rather than just a ring that will work, which I know is true. I’m trying not to think along the “maybe he’s just trying to throw me off” lines because I don’t want to actually be disappointed on Christmas – I know I’ll love whatever he got me, even if it’s not a ring just yet. Also, this is our first Christmas and New Years when we’ll actually be together! We’ve been dating for over 3 years, but we’ve always been with our respective families – this year, I’m down in Florida with his family for the holidays. So, that’s definitely something to be excited about!
@lalalalinzii: It’s so hard sometimes not to show your disappointment. I’d try though, because you don’t want to put a damper on the holiday! I had to work really hard not to tear up or show disappointment on my face when he told me he didn’t have the ring yet – I was sad, but I didn’t want to make him feel bad!
Post # 12
You can always go in for an extended “disappointed hug” – he thinks he’s getting a hug because you’re happy, you use the time to hide your disappointed face and compose yourself 😛