(Closed) No close friends for bridemaids! Help!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

With the rampant wildfire that is bridal party drama, don’t ask anyone to be a bridesmaid because you’re afraid of being judged. Then you’d have to deal with drama from people you aren’t actually close with, and that to me would be worse than regular drama 😉

People who judge you on decisions like that are jerks. Don’t worry about them!

FH and I aren’t having a bridal party at all and it’s been the best decision for us. Maybe your FH’s friends can play a part some other way. Just a thought!

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Do you have any family members on either side you could ask, such as cousins or sisters? I am having my sister, two friends, and my Future Sister-In-Law stand on my side. How far is the wedding? You could try getting closer to the friends you do have now if you have enough time.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

jessy5280:  A bride should have those who love and support her by her side. In your case, if that’s your Mom, so be it. You can read lots of threads posted by Bees who asked women they were not that close to, just to fill out their numbers. Not all of those situations went well.

Does your Fiance have a sister or sister in law? You could ask them. If not, I say be happy with your Maid/Matron of Honor and let your Fiance ask whomever he wants.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Do you have a friend that has been constant if not close? I have known my Maid/Matron of Honor 20 years now, we might not talk often and we have our own lives far from each other but it is highly likely she will be in my life for another 20 years, if not as best friends. Do you have any friends like that?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Quality over quantity. You can always have half of the groom’s party stand on each side of you and your groom for the ceremony. Or invite close male friends/relatives to stand up with you. Anyone who would get judgy over how many people are in a wedding party should probably not be invited in the first place.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

This has popped up on the Bee a lot lately. I also don’t have many close female friends, but I adore my big brothers, so they stood with me. So, our wedding party (apart from myself) was all male. It was pretty cool to have all those handsome guys in tuxedos in our wedding pictures, and everyone thought it was super sweet that I had my brothers instead of bridesmaids. Just don’t overthink it.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

jessy5280:  perhaps have your FI’s groomsmen have their wives / gfs to be your bridal party? Or you can not have any at all like mentioned above. It’s ok to not have a bridal party. I don’t want you to have anyone up there that you don’t want. I’d keep your mom as your Maid/Matron of Honor, that’s precious. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

jessy5280:  Honey, I was in a similar predicament. I only have a Maid/Matron of Honor and one bridesmaid, while Fiance has four groomsmen. My two girls and I are all super-close, and I just didn’t feel like adding anyone else and have them feel like the odd duck out. They get a dude on each arm going back up the aisle and when entering the reception 😛

If you have any sisters, female cousins, or Future Sister-In-Law, that would be an easy fix. But if you really don’t want anyone else, then don’t worry about it! You’ll have less drama and won’t need to worry about people squabbling over dress costs and random stuff. Oh, and having your mom as your Maid/Matron of Honor is AWESOME. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

You’ve got some great replies here. So hopefully you’re less worried now. 

I’m 38 so ive had plenty of time to collect a big bunch of very dear girlfriends from all over the place. I’m not having any bridesmaids…I could never pick. And as we are having a small ceremony it would mean most of the female guests would be up there. So none is totally fine. 

And when youre 38 you too will have gathered some amazing friends along the way…just maybe you don’t know them yet so not much help as BMs right now  🙂

as long as you have support where you need it and it sounds like your mama is doing a grand job then don’t worry. 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

jessy5280:  My mom was my Maid/Matron of Honor also! I had my SIL as my Bridesmaid or Best Man and that was it. I had the exact same problem as you do. My mom and I were always so close I never felt the need to make tons of close friends.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

jessy5280:  I thought the same thing when I had to pick bridesmaids. I really didn’t have any close friends so I ended up having one of my SILs and 1 cousin be bridesmaids and another cousin be my Maid/Matron of Honor. 

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