(Closed) No close girlfriends… what to do?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you have close guy friends?  Does your partner object to you having male attendants?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m all for having ‘bridesmen!’ Especially in this situation. If you’re Fiance is not dead set on the women for the bride/men for the groom idea (which is negotiable, anyway, yay for marital compromise), then discuss having your best guy friends stand up with you. 

Some brides want even sides with matching dresses, some don’t care if the sides are even, or if there is even a bridal party at all. For me, a bridal party should be comprised of the people who will be there to support your marriage and help you work through those tough times to strengthen the marriage. Whether they’re young or old, male or female, those next to you on your big day should be important to you. 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Do any of the groomsmen have gfs/wives you can have stand next to you? Do you have a sister or cousin you can stand??

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah have your guy friends with you! Its toally okay and common these days.  Have who you want to be there for YOU!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Go with your sisters. If nothing else, you know they’ll always be in your life. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would ask your sisters.  You don’t need them to be helpful.  All they do is go to a few bridal shops to try on dresses, purchase a dress, attend the rehearsal, and be with you all day on your wedding.  I don’t know what you want help with and why they are not helpful.

If you want a bigger party, ask  your FIs sisters also.  Do you not get along with the one because you have different interests? Or because she was mean to you?  If you just have different interests, then I’d still ask her.  If she was mean to you, then you have to decide if you can be a bigger person and extend the olive branch.  This may be a good opportunity to turn things around!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@HappilyEverAfter54: How many guys does your groom have in his party? I would say go with your sisters first and foremost, maybe you aren’t the closest right now but this could be a good new leaf for you guys. After that feel free to add your guy friends its 2011, no one will care. Hope this helps.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Love the idea of bridesmen!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am in a similar situation I went to a predominately male college and therefore have a lot of great guy friends but only a few close girlfriends. Fiance on the other hand was in a fraterinty so if it was up to him we would have a  huge bridal party! While I told him having twice the amount of groomsman than bridesmaids would look really strange I didn’t really care if our numbers were slightly uneven. So now we have one more groomsman than bridesmaid and also a lot of his other fraternity brothers are doing other things (ushers mostly).

I also agree with pp if you have no other girls definitely ask your sisters and his sisters. I am not super close to Fiance sister, she is out of state and we have only met a few times but I know through the years we will definitely become closer. I think asking her was more of a nice gesture letting her know I hope we can become even closer in the future! Also, as mentioned having guys stand up with you is really not a big deal these days. Most importantly you should have the people that love and support you regardless of their gender!

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