(Closed) No corsage for Groom’s or Bride’s mother? Is that OK?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

For our wedding, his mother wasn’t there (she passed away) but we did get my mother a corsage. She ended up taking it off halfway through the reception. I noticed her continually fiddling with it and asked if it was making her uncomfortable. She asked if I would mind if she took it off, and of course I didn’t.

Long story short – maybe ask them if they really want to wear them. Not everyone likes corsages. 

Post # 18
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did single red roses for the mothers and grandmothers to carry, it worked out really well.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Neither of our moms cared very much, so we didn’t do it.  Just ask your guys’ moms how they feel.  I don’t really like the look of corsages anyway – they seem to prom-y to me.  I think a single rose would be a sweet idea though!

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are doing corsages for the grandmothers, but I’m letting my mom and Future Mother-In-Law decide if they want flowers or not.  For my brother’s wedding, they had these little silver holders that held a small bouquet of flowers that had a little flat stand bottom so that they could set them on the table during the reception.  Then, they had the little holder to use as a bud vase as a memento.

 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

And it doesn’t have to be this pin on corsage either.  It can be a nosegay or the sigle rose idea, previously mentioned.  Why do the dads get bouts, then?  I think ultimately, it would be wise to have something for the moms.  Especially you mom, if your dad has something.  And especially FI’s mom,since well, it’s a nice gesture for the Future In-Laws.  (And easy for the parents of the groom to feel knd of left out of the whole process.)

Even if the moms, think the corsages  are stuffy, you could gift them with something else.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yeah, my mom was the one who told me to skip the corsages and bouts, but when I mentioned this to my stepmom, I saw some uncertainty so I decided to go ahead and get them so nobodys feelings will be hurt.  Best to skip the drama!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We’re not doing them b/c I hate the dead booby flower look.  My mom is fine without having one (actually I think she’s happy).

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

i’m not a fan of corsages, so i was going to get them both nosegays.   but then i realized that they were recieving single roses during the ceremony, and that a nosegay and a single rose would look foolish  when they were walking back up the aisle.

i just left it at the single roses…and i think everyone was happy.

 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Just ask them if they would like one.

Smile

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are not doing them. My mom doesnt want one because she thinks they look to prom-y or old fashioned. His mom kind of wanted one, but when we told her my mom didnt want one, she thought it would look odd for only her to have one. My dad will be getting a bout since he is walking me down the aisle.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

To those that say they look dated: We are doing the corsages on each mother’s clutch rather than pinned on their shoulder or on their wrist. I think it will look great and very updated!

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

We didn’t do corsages for either of our moms or grandmas and there were no issues with it.  My mom was really adamant about not wanting one (she felt a wrist corsage felt like Prom and didn’t want to pin anything to her dress).  We also DIYed our flowers, so we didn’t really know how to make our own corsages.  In the end, no one mentioned it and was kind of a non-issue. 

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law requested that we not do real flower corsages for her since at my FSIL’s wedding they got crushed with all the hugging and barely lasted into the reception.  We are going to come up with a crafty alternative of something non-crushable. 

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