Post # 1
My FI & I are contemplating an evening wedding with without *dramatic-drumroll-even-though-you’ve-already-read-the-title-of-my-post* dancing.
The ceremony will begin at either 6:00 or 6:30. We only have the reception venue until 10:00 at night so people probably need to be heading out by 9:30 or so. So, really the reception is only going to be about 2.5 hours long. Neither of us are huge fans of dancing and the thought of my grandparents watching me on the dance floor is…well…there’s a generational gap in dancing styles, I’m sure lol. It’s also a very small wedding (60 ppl).
We would both like to include toasts, cake cutting, perhaps a running slide show and would have some structure to the event but other than that, we want to try and create the vibe of an awesome cocktail party in which everyone socializes and gets to catch up and see each other. We’re even thinking of having heavy appetizers in lieu of dinner (but enough to fill everyone up, of course). For the younger ones who want to dance, the clubs will still be open afterwards, I figure 🙂
I know for me as a guest, good company, good wine, and good food would equal a fabulous time. But will guests be weirded out? An evening wedding with no dancing? What would you ladies think?
Post # 3
I’m going to be honest. I went to a wedding this past weekend that didn’t have any dancing, (except the first dance and parent dances), and people were majorly bummed out. at the end of the night my friend, (a bridesmaid), begged the person in charge of the music, (not really a dj, just a lady with a laptop and itunes), to play one slow song. EVERY couple was up on the dance floor during that song because everyone was itching to dance.
I will say, you know your guests best and if you feel that they wouldn’t miss dancing, then i would trust your instincts.
Post # 4
For such a short event, I wouldn’t miss the dancing. I actually dislike really short dance periods.
1) either really embrace the cocktail idea and create kind of a loungy atmosphere, or do an extravagent seated dinner. With either option, you’ll have something else going on to keep people occupied.
2) especially if you go with the dinner, have a real cocktail hour to give people that opportunity to mingle.
I’m doing the heavy appetizer reception, it really can work. It isn’t any cheaper than a seated dinner, though, so keep that in mind.
Post # 5
Tons of people have short weddings with no dancing. It is not weird or bad. If someone truly has an issue with it, they can decline the invite and stay home. Most people in real life have no issue at all with this type of reception and actually like being able to mingle with other guests that they may not be able to at a reception where there is dancing. Most weddings I have been to have been like this and everyone had a wonderful time with no complaints whatsoever.
Post # 6
I’ve been to two weddings w/o dancing. One was a major bust. It was horribly boring. That being said, the other wedding was amazing and very classy. It was a later evening reception and more black tie. The couple had a string quartet and it had a very cocktail vibe to it, honestly I didn’t even realize there wasn’t dancing at first! Depending on how you do it I think it would be great!
Post # 7
I am having a destination wedding to Jamaica and we also are not having dancing. We are doing our ceremony around 6ish and then heading over for a reception dinner. We only have 30 guests coming and half is family. I agree with you about being awkward in front of grandmom getting jiggy with it. lol
We are getting married at a resort that has a club and 5 bars. So if after the reception everyone wants to go dancing, then of course we will hit the club and bars. But I cant fathom paying for a dj and a dance floor for 15 people to dance for an hour.
Post # 8
our wedding had no dancing so i’m a bit biased. i hate dancing. i didn’t want to be miserable at my own wedding, and while i did care that the guests were happy i cared more that i was happy.
it went really well, someone even said that she didn’t even notice that there wasn’t dancing about a month later when we were talking about the wedding. our reception started at 6:30, and people left by 10. it was a sunday so that’s what we expected. everybody seemed to just enjoy mingling and catching up with old friends and family.
we didn’t do a cake cutting, but we did have a toast and we did one dance, the hora.
Post # 9
If you guys aren’t big into dancing, then don’t have it- its your day!
Post # 10
I voted to do what you and your FI want. If you aren’t big dancers, then don’t have dancing. If you’re expecting people to leave by 9:30, there won’t be any time for dancing anyway. My ceremony started at 6:00 and we had our venue till midnight. We did the traditional toasts, first dance, mom/son & dad/daughter dances, cake cutting, table toasts… and by the time all that was said and done, we had “open dancing” start around 9:30 or 10.
Post # 11
I think you would do just fine with no dancing. Like some of the others I was think you should go all out with the lounge vibe. You could play some ipod music in the background, like maybe jazz, strings, or classical. I think that heavy appeptizers would be great with that. You could set up stations around the room to keep everyone mingling.
Post # 12
If you’re not into dancing, don’t have it! Especially as it’s not a long night I think it will be fine. I went to a wedding where the couple didn’t like dancing, they did a first dance but that was it – so they ended up with an empty dance floor all night! Now *that* was weird – personally I think it would have been better to just not have any if that’s what they wanted. Sounds like you will have a lovely party 🙂
Post # 13
I would do some dancing just for you/husband, father/daughter and mother/son add a few extra songs just in case people do want to dance. just get an ipod with speakers etc.
Post # 14
To be honest I hate weddings without dancing. But then again, I love to dance and pretty much hate any party where I don’t get to hit the floor. That said, you sound very sure of what will work for you and your FI o go for it!
Post # 15
We’re not dancers either.. We’ll be playing music in the backround for anyone that chooses to dance, we just won’t be joining them!
Post # 16
I think it’s more expected at an evening wedding (more of a party-atmosphere) but I’m sure you can set a cocktail party feel and no one will miss it.
We’re doing an afternoon wedding and skipping dancing but it’s low key so I don’t think people will miss the dancing.