(Closed) No Dancing, No Alcohol… How do I get guests out of their seats and having fun?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Thoughts?
    A reception without cocktails and dancing? Snooze fest. : (146 votes)
    53 %
    I think with the photobooth set up and candy buffet, people will have a blast! : (34 votes)
    12 %
    That all sounds a little kiddish. Is this a kids birthday party or a reception? : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Add games too! That will really get everyone talking and invested in the evening. : (45 votes)
    16 %
    Nobody likes a try hard! Don't worry so much, guests will entertain themselves. : (20 votes)
    7 %
    Other! : (4 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 33
    2080 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @silkspectre94:  We had dancing and alcohol but an activity we had outside of that was giving away the centerpieces. We placed a sticker underneath a chair at each table. Whoever, had the sticker underneath their chair got to the take the centerpiece home with them.

    We also went table to table to greet guests, which really didn’t get them out of their chairs but gave us/them the opportunity to socialize.

    Post # 34
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I would die a little inside if there was no booze. But no dancing, sure.

    I suggest lawn games… croquet, giant chess etc etc.

    Post # 35
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Do you have a lot of guests coming in from out of town?  I know that whenever we have a family wedding whether there’s dancing or not, we spend a lot of time catching up with out of town relatives and have a great time doing so.

    As to people thinking it would be boring without alcohol or dancing, I wouldn’t worry.  If this is a crowd that isn’t into those things, then they would probably enjoy the photobooth and some games a lot more.  Whenever you gear your food, drinks and activiities towards the crowd you’ve got, you’ll succeed far more than trying to do what’s popular on the Bee.

    Think about what sorts of activities get your guests at other gatherings.  What party game or particular thing does everyone still rave about from another party or wedding?  Those are things to hone in on and consider working into your wedding reception.

    Post # 36
    7130 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It seems you know your crowd, and that they most likely wouldn’t be dancing even if you had it. That being said, there probably isn’t anything you will be able to do to get your guests “up having fun”.

    I would maybe ditch the disposable cameras and opt for renting a photobooth.

    The disposables usually end up being a big waste of money. It costs every bit of $10+/camera to develop and usually you get a lot of pictures that are black (no flash fire), or with fingers in front of the lens. I’d take that money and put towards renting a photobooth that comes with props and people can get a printout oft heir photo right on the spot.

    Post # 37
    3725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Is it too late to just do a luncheon reception or dinner-only reception? The point of a reception is to have a party. If folks aren’t really going to get up and dance or mingle, maybe you should think of a shorter reception.

    Post # 38
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would get an actual photobooth where they can get instant pictures.  Those disposables always look completely terrible and your guests won’t even be able to see their pictures.  That is why photobooths are fun, because you get to leave with your photos. 

    Maybe you could do some newlywed game.

    I’m not sure what you want them to get out of their seats to do…mingle?  The photobooth would have that effect. 

    Maybe you could do another type of bar at an opposite end of the room like a trail mix or smores bar or ice cream sundae bar.  So if people didn’t like candy they could have something else and it would give them a reason to get up. 

    I think it’s good the reception is only 5-8 though.

    Post # 39
    1542 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @silkspectre94:  well then i guess a photobooth and boardgames will be great.

    Post # 42
    3256 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @silkspectre94:  I’m trying to think of ways you can get people to move around to different tables.  You could also provide a selection of non-alcoholic cocktails, or milkshakes, or something like that, where people will go up and order something they’re interested in.

    I can’t think of games that will get people to move around to different tables and talk to new people, except a people bingo, which I think most people won’t get into without a little help from our good friend, alcohol.  Anyone have ideas on games that get people moving around and mingling?

    Post # 44
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

    Don’t worry, OP! Not everyone has alcohol or dancing at their wedding. My best friend’s wedding in Missouri was just like yours – very religious people who weren’t into drinking. We had a toast with sparkling apple juice instead of champagane/wine and it was delicious! And all of their guests had a great time talking and listening to music and eating. It wasn’t as horrible as some people might think it would be. I wouldn’t be so down on yourself – I’m sure your reception will be just fine!

    Post # 45
    662 posts
    Busy bee

    Martha Stewart had a really cute mingling game.  You put half of a famous or historical couple at each place setting, and the guests have to find the person with the other half of their couple.  So say a woman at table 1 has Cher, a guy at table 8 would have Sonny, and they would have to find each other.



    Post # 46
    4690 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I cannot imagine an adult event without at least wine and beer. You can play whatever music you want and have games but unfortunately I don’t think people will stay long. It’s just how it is.

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