(Closed) No Dancing, No Alcohol… How do I get guests out of their seats and having fun?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Thoughts?
    A reception without cocktails and dancing? Snooze fest. : (146 votes)
    53 %
    I think with the photobooth set up and candy buffet, people will have a blast! : (34 votes)
    12 %
    That all sounds a little kiddish. Is this a kids birthday party or a reception? : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Add games too! That will really get everyone talking and invested in the evening. : (45 votes)
    16 %
    Nobody likes a try hard! Don't worry so much, guests will entertain themselves. : (20 votes)
    7 %
    Other! : (4 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 63
    9326 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    have some fun group participation dances.  i love to dance and don’t need alcohol to do it.

    cupid shuffle

    cha cha slide

    hokey pokey

    electric slide

    are just a few fun and easy songs to dance to

    Post # 64
    3290 posts
    Sugar bee

    could u do at least a digital camera instead of dispoibles? it will look better and will be 10000% better quality photos.

    You are seriously wasting a lot of money on cameras (+ developing and printing) that only delay the photos. Maybe set the camera up to ur comuter monitor, so guests can at least see, if not get a printout of their pic.

    Post # 65
    914 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I went to a brunch wedding with no alcohol and light dancing. Even if you don’t like to dance, I would say have the option available. The bride and groom didn’t dance (besides the slow dance) but it was fun to watch the kids go out there and run around. It was held in a restaurant, so games wouldn’t have been too easy to play, but I think that would have been fun otherwise. But, since there was no alcohol, people did end up leaving pretty early.

    Post # 66
    472 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    The photobooth will be great and provide entertainment.  I would really think of getting some games as well as that will give people something to do.  Maybe some outside sporty(ish) ones, badmington, corquet, skittles etc.   – Also some ice-breaker games like wedding eye-spy (I’m sure there are many others, I’m nto sure what but there must be ideas)

    Plus even if you don’t want to dance is there any problem with having some music and a small area where people could if they wanted to?

    I’m sure you can make it fun, but I think some activities to keep people ebtertained is a must.


    Post # 67
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014


    Have you considered a polaroid camera rather than disposable ones? You can pick them up pretty cheap on ebay I think and that way your guests will have the instant gratification of a photobooth.

    Post # 68
    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Sounds like your wedding will be a blast! We’re doing a photobooth as well, it’s definitely a fun idea that not a lot of people seem to have, at least the weddings I’ve been to. You do what makes you and your SO happy!

    Post # 69
    11744 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    what exactly do you expect them to do if there isn’t dancing? I guess I’d just mingle and talk to people to occupy myself like I’d do at a dinner party.  Games seem pretty juvenile and unnecessary.  I think adults can entertain themselves by talking to people.




    Post # 70
    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    You know your crowd better than we do. Sounds like this is the type of event that your social circle is used to. So you are over thinking it. A dry wedding is not the norm for me, but could i go and still enjoy myself, absolutely. But a wedding with no dancing, that I can’t fathom, so I would be inclined to leave early. And the only adult game that I’d be open to would be ideo games 😉 – I’m being silly. I think your doing fine for your crowd. 

    Post # 71
    1460 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    The last wedding I went to had both dancing and alcohol.  No one danced (but the DJ kept the tunes flowing) and there was very, very little drinking.  We had a ball at my table though.  We talked, laughed, and generally had a really good time.  The B&G seated groups of people together that knew one another so I think that made things more social.

    Post # 72
    2437 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @silkspectre94:  People will mingle, don’t worry. Alcohol is not needed to have a good time. I would try to avoid games it could make it too birthday like. Where is the reception taking place that might help with generating ideas.


    Post # 73
    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    OP, you have said at least a dozen times that your crowd won’t dance, and twice that many people keep suggesting ways you can include dancing…but I hear you loud and clear so I won’t say anything about the dancing. However, I will say that your photobooth idea needs to be revamped. Yes, people may have fun snapping pictures, but if you want to take your reception up a notch (which I assume yes because you turned to the bee for help) then you should find a way that your guest can see those pictures immediately. I have this cute Polaroid camera that takes mini pictures. I am not sure how much it was, but if you were planning on buying disposables and getting them all developed (not cheap) then you can afford this. Or, you can buy a printer on the cheap that prints out digital photos right away. That with a digital camera will be cheaper, more efficient, and loads more fun. The disposable idea sounds ok in theory, but when will your guest see those pictures? It is just an idea without payoff IMO. The shoe game may be cute, but that is about it. If guests won’t dance, I can’t see them playing musical chairs. Anyway, good luck with your day and your marriage. Your guests are there to celebrate that and ultimately can’t have a “bad” time. 

    Post # 74
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee

    From what you describe, I don’t think you have to worry about a thing. It seems like the guest will know exactly what they are in for. The reception is only from 5-8 PM so that’s enough time for eating, socializing, and cake cutting. A lot of people leave after the cake has been cut anyway. I wouldn’t go out of my way to try to make it more “fun” because it might seem like you’re trying too hard. Just do what you’re doing.

    Post # 75
    1684 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I recommend The Shoe Game:


    It’s involves no props other than chairs and what you have on your feet, and it allows you to customize the questions based on your audience. 

    We played at my engagement party  and it was a hit!  It took up about an hour and inspired a lot of laughs.  We set it up with mostly G-rated questions (mostly to tease one of both of us) with a couple of naughty ones for humor purposes.  My parents and sister wrote them so they stayed appropriate for our friends and family. 

    I think this, after dinner, will encourage your guests to stick around, laugh, and play along. 

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