Post # 1
Hello! I’m trying to come up with ideas to make the reception a little more fun. We’re not going to be having alcohol or dancing at our wedding. Most of the people coming to the wedding don’t drink or dance (most are Seventh-day Adventist), so neither one makes a whole lot of sense (especially with the price of alcohol).We’re not against the idea of dancing, but it probably wouldn’t get many people involved.
I’m trying to think of ideas that would be fun for people. So far I like the idea of the shoe game. Also, I saw a cool idea where they had 25 Mickey Mouses hidden around the reception area, and guests would write down where they saw them. The first one to 25 got a prize. That sounds cool, though we’d use something other than Mickey Mouse. I also would like to have a photo booth type area. Possibly pen and pencil games at the table. I once went to a wedding where the bride had to identify the groom by feeling a bunch of guys’ ears, and the groom had to identify the bride by feeling the hands of a bunch of girls.
I think a bunch of those sound fun, but I’d also like to come up with something more people could be involved in. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
Is it indoors or outdoors? is there a sitdown dinner or cocktail? alot of things can change what you can do.. im going to set up crotet in the gardens where we’regetting married and i love that idea of hiding the micky mouses! but not micky mouses. I thought this sounded fun too
Post # 5
Just being honest, but if I were a guest at a wedding with no alcohol AND no dancing, I wouldn’t really want to play or watch games. Have you thought about making it like just a very nice sit down dinner with music playing? What about hiring a string quartet or jazz band to play music while people just socialize at their tables?
Post # 6
@juliejanelle: My first wedding had no alchohol and no dancing, but we had a good time because we had some musicians in the crowd who were willing to start somewhat of an experimental/participative music ‘jam’. People who were musical led the ‘jam’ while people who weren’t musical played percussion instruments, spoons, and even a jug.
Post # 7
I’ve been to weddings without dances and alcohol. They had open mic. People could sing a song, tell a story about the couple, etc.
Post # 9
@MrsPadlock2B: Yes, actually, if you have no musicians, you could hire a couple of them to do something similar…maybe even combine it with the open mic idea. The last wedding I was at, they had a sort of ‘contest’ where the tables had to come up with songs to sing for the couple that contained the word ‘love’ or something like that…it was pretty funny and fun 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for the ideas everyone! The reception is going to be indoors.
We’re trying to figure out what kind of food setup we’ll have because we’re hoping to have the wedding around 1:30-2:00 to allow guests within driving distance to have the option of driving to the wedding and getting home that night instead of having to spend the night. Also, we want to spend time with our guests, but we want to get away pretty early in the evening. We need to decide if we want to tell people to plan on a late lunch/early supper or just light food.
I wasn’t planning on having musicians. We don’t have a very big budget, so I was thinking of pre-recorded music or possibly having my brother play the piano (Unfortunately it’s hard to walk around the room carrying a piano). I may look into it, though.
Post # 10
My DJ actually just posted a beautiful video from a dry faith based wedding he did this weekend and everyone was dancing and having a blast! I was raised catholic but I looked forward to the fall dance every year growing up. Are you sure they wouldn’t like dancing or is it against your religion? I only ask because you may be surprised. You definitely don’t need booze to have a good dance floor. You just need a good DJ.
Post # 11
make it a quick reception. don’t drag it out longer than it has to be if there is no alcohol or dancing.
Post # 12
I’ve been to many no dance/alcohol weddings, and they are always lovely! If most people are not expecting or used to alcohol/dancing at the wedding, then it shouldn’t be a problem :). Sitting and socializing, a slidesow, music, appetizers or dinner, a candy bar, wedding games like the shoe game, bouquet/garter toss, an open mic for well wishers as well as small speeches by the best man and maid of honor, etc. The time fills up quickly. I went to one Adventist wedding where some if the groomsmen and bridesmaids took some classic ballroom classes and offered to teach people to dance! It went over well because it was very wholesome and classic (no explicit songs or themes or lewd dance types) and everyone got involved. Even in typical weddings with many adventist attending (meaning alcohol and dancing included), the focus is never on that aspect and I never see a lot if dancing/drinking anyway, it’s always on the couple, which makes it really special.
Post # 13
if I were you I’d have a lunch or afternoon tea reception then it would be finished at a good time for the guests and you to leave. The reception need not be longer than 2-3 hours then you won’t need or have time for games etc.