(Closed) No dancing. Will guests be bored?

posted 10 years ago in Music
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

no, it should be fine.  I attended a wedding recently (night wedding) with no alcohol or dancing either.  They had two wonderful emcees who coordinated the night.  They had a slideshow, funny games, and wonderful speeches.  The rest of the night was filled with catching up with old friends and taking pictures.  The reception ended a bit early (9pm) for a regular night wedding, but everyone still had a great time. 

Perhaps you could incorporate some group games into the mix…so the audience is participating and they’re not just sitting there.  You could make every table a "team" and provide a prize at the end…How well do they know the couple, random/funny marriage trivia, men v. women, etc…

 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I had a small intimate wedding with no dancing.  The feel was just how I wanted.  Relaxed and cozy.  The short ceremony started at 7 and then lead into cocktail hour and a sit down dinner.  I had a 3 piece band there playing all night.  People started to leave around 10:30. Personally I wanted it short and sweet.  With such a small group, I was thrilled to talk to everyone and not force dancing on them.  I am sure people would have danced but I just had this feeling it was not apporprate for the event.  I definatly made the right decision.  I wanted a lovely wedding not a rocking one.  To each their own.    

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hi!  I think it’s completley fine not to have dancing.  We’re having a small wedding too, with an intimate reception at my fiancee’s family’s home (all this taking place in India) and while we’ll have our first dance and play a list of songs throughout the evening that really mean something to us as a couple, I doubt there will be a ton of dancing.  We were originally thinking of doing what you are, a champagne lunch.  I think its a sweet idea.  You should celebrate the beginning of your marriage in whatever way feels natural to you.

I’ve kind of detailed what we’re doing for our wedding/reception on my blog, http://bamboo-bride.blogspot.com if you’re interested!

Good luck and you’re going to have a beautiful wedding!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My fh and I went to a wedding last summer with no dancing.  It was very odd, and though we enjoyed ourselves because it was an intimate group, we really did miss the dancing.  Because of this experience we have decided to have dancing at our wedding.  I think that if you do not have dancing there needs to be a slide show and/or some other form of entertainment.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think that if your wedding was at night, it would be different, but since you’re doing a brunch you should be ok.

Post # 8
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Wannabee

I think that you will be okay with no dancing. It’s your day and your dream!  I think that many times people forget that a a wedding isn’t just a big party with an open bar. It’s a special day and a celebration of a new stage in your life. You should be able to reflect that any way you want.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

We aren’t having dancing or alcohol.  Our venue is just too small and government owned.  The last 3 wedding I attended didn’t have dancing or alcohol either- and we all had a wonderful time!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

It’s only a few hours- you’ll be fine =)  If you start at 1, people will probably start eating around 1:30, finish around 2:30.  Then you only have 1-1.5 hours to do cake, pictures, mingle, etc.  No time for people to get bored!  I don’t think entertainment is necessary at all =)

For what it’s worth, we had just under 50 people for a lunchtime wedding.  Our time frame was 11-4 for ceremony and reception, no dancing or other activities, and we had no problems.  People lingered past 4 chatting and walking around, even though it was 105deg (no air conditioning), so they must’ve thought it was okay!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

This my experience.

 

  When my fiance and I met our first "official" date was his sister’s wedding.  Her reception was the nicest I have ever attended.  Ever.  Her details- gorgeous.  Dress- to die for.  Food- Wow.

   The down side was there was absolutley no dancing- and the reception was a full length reception (from 6-12 p.m.)  Soooo BORING!  I was ready to leave around 9 p.m., but my fiance wanted to stay and support his sister (cute, eh?).  It was excruciating for me, and I considered not seeing him again that night (I’m a jerk :)- but it was that boring and his parents hated me- I was the first girl he had brought home- he was 28!!).  

   Since you are doing a brunch… it shouldn’t be a problem.  Just don’t expect people to want hang around for four-six hours.  Socializing is fun… but without alcohol and dancing a few hours is enough.  I would also possibly let guests know what to expect, possibly in your invitation?  The reception card, perhaps?  You don;t have to mention that there’s no dancing, but let guests know it is a brunch- I think most people go to wedding expecting alcohol and dancing, and brunch is a good indicator there won’t be dancing (who wants to cut a rug at noon?)

 

  After reading your post more thoroughly though… I feel like you’ve planned well and there should be no problem 🙂  Congrats. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I think it sounds lovely and appropriate for the time of day.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007

I don’t care for dancing, so I didn’t have any at my wedding.  many people told me they really liked the small (similar size to yours) intimate event where they just enjoyed the food and conversation.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We’re planning a no-dance brunch too!  I think it’s perfect and probably appropriate for the time of day and size– especially the size.  My Future Brother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law had dancing at their relatively small wedding, and though it was in the evening, the dance floor was pretty empty and most of the older adults left!  The music was fantastic, but it was SOOO boring sitting around.

Can I also assume that because you’re having a small wedding, your closest friends and relatives will be attending?  My mom made an excellent point to me last night– all our friends and relatives will be more interested in catching up and eating than dancing!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I feel like such a boozehound, but the no alcohol seems like a bigger deal than the no dancing.  Depending on your guests it may not matter much, or you may have religious beliefs that make it a no-no.  But if either of these is not the case, at least a cash bar may be in order.  Since it is a small wedding, there may be a few guests who are unfamiliar with most of the people there.  A little lubrication may make them a little less uncomfortable.  Plus wine or champagne is always appropriate with a nice meal, whether it’s lunch or brunch.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

We had dancing at our wedding, and I worried a bit about whether the dance floor was big enough – but most of the guests either didn’t dance or didn’t dance much.  Many of our guests don’t get a lot of opportunity to see one another, and they were much more interested in socializing.  The people who did dance were mostly local friends of ours who do see each other (and us) all the time, but I really think that they would have been fine just drinking and socializing as well.  We did have an evening reception.

Also, I don’t think I have ever been to an afternoon wedding reception that had dancing.  It’s much more of an evening thing.  It’s also not that rare to have an afternoon reception without alcohol – or if alcohol is served, I think that people drink quite a bit less in the afternoon than they would in the evening.

So yes, I think it’s just fine if you don’t have dancing!  Everybody will have a great time.  Anybody who is bored to tears because they can’t dance didn’t want to be there all that badly in the first place.

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