(Closed) No dating history content in the speech please…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t think it’d be rude at all! I was JUST thinking about this this morning. I’m just going to nicely ask my sister. The day is about my Fiance and I….not the past.

Post # 4
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t think people would do this, but obviously your friends do. I would be very direct and clear with them – please don’t mention any of my former relationships or dating history in your speech. I would like to focus on our relationship at the wedding. Thanks.


Post # 5
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I asked for it not to be mentioned. It’s not rude. It’s just a little bit of helpful guidance.

Post # 6
2541 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s weird to ask them not to say anything. It is an awkward thing to directly reference in a speech. If you want to say it to them without being negative, make a joke of it. Something like “Haha, you guys better not mention _____ in your speech! I would freak out!” 

Post # 7
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have also attended weddings and heard some really awkward speeches and toasts… sometimes I wonder if people actually think it through before they decide what to say

Post # 8
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it adds character! I know without doubt I’m the best he’s ever had. Go ahead make a comparison!

As for your problem. You can ask your girls who are speaking on your behalf I do not however think it’s okay to walk over the the Bridesmaid or Best Man (or GM) and make such a request. Perhaps your fiance would be on the same page to make the request to his men.

Post # 11
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Personally I do not mind such things, I find them funny. However no one is to mention my ex husband, first marriage or allude to any of that….I have no plans of minding my manners when I tell ppl that.

A roast talking about haha she must have dated x amount of guys….fine, no problem

If anyone mentions my ex husband or 1st wedding I will never speak to them again and everyone will be informed of that.

Forget etiquette if you find that embarassing then just tell them “no speeches that include talk (direct or alluding to) my past relationships, bf’s etc”

How close is your wedding….the only way I could see anyone being upset is if you waited until a month before then told them, some ppl have a hard time writing speeches but if told early in the game then no one should take issue with your request.

Post # 12
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

ive never been to a wedding where this was done either.  the only one coming close was my uncle’s when his best man was giving a toast and he said “here’s to the women you left behind, and here’s to the reason you left them.” which i kinda liked. 

Post # 13
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well you shouldn’t have to tell them not to mention that. They should know. But if you think that it might come up then its not rude to be very clear and frank about the fact that you don’t want those things talked about at your wedding.

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