(Closed) No dinner at reception-invitation wording

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe 8 pm- Reception and hors d’ouvres and you can make your own snacks hot or cold.

Will there be alcohol? Maybe call it a cocktail reception or dessert reception.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Unfortunately, the time of your wedding will make people anticipate a full meal. If you started later than 6:30, people would draw the right conclusions from the time and a statement like hors d’ourves and dancing to follow. I wish I had more advice for you, but this is going to be difficult to explain to people… even if you put on the invitation that there are ony snacks, a lot of people will still expect a meal because of the timing and may end up leaving out of hunger.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The best option is to have both the ceremony and reception not near a meal time.  6-8pm is kind of prime evening meal time for most, so you’d have to make it an afternoon dealie or haveit after 8:30pm (both ceremony and reception).

Then you can serve cake and punch (maybe champane) or other assorted desserts.  It would be appropriate to word it on the invitation as “dessert reception and dancing to follow” rather than just “reception to follow.”

 

Is there any way those times can work?  They key really is to avoid prime dinner time if you’re not serving a meal.

 

Are there going to be tables and chairs for people to eat their snacks?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

A Sweet Handmade Church Wedding for 3K: Sara + Steve

This bride did a cookie reception.  She had all her favorite women in the family bake their favorite cookie.  She managed to have 300 guests with all these cookies (i am not sure how!).  Must have been a short reception.

Anyway, you’d need to have VERY special relatives if you’re going to ask them to do something for you.  Normally you only take someone’s help if they offered it in the first place, as opposed to asking asking epople to do things for you.  I know I couldn’t have asked anyone to do anything.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you had the private dinner from 6:30 to 8 pm. ceremony at 8 with reception following, I don’t think most people would be expecting dinner.

For a wedding starting at 8 pm, I do believe they would go out to dinner first.

Instead of calling it a midnight buffet, I would put “light refreshments”.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I really think you should make it in the afternoon or do it after 8pm. Any time close to dinner and you are going to leave your guests hungry. No matter how you word it, dinner time is dinner time and people naturally get hungry around then. Cookies wont fill anyone up. Is there any way you can do it in the afternoon? Then you can have dessert and punch right after.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I would change to an afternoon wedding with afternoon tea afterwards. You will more than likely not get many people to turn up to a non dinner wedding at dinner time.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So you’re not actually hosting ANYTHING?  That’s not a reception.  You’re asking your guests to provide their own food and pay for their own drinks.  Sounds like a great time.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

  • I’m honestly not a fan at all of tiered receptions, where you select VIP guests to have a dinner (whether before or after) and a general ceremony later. 
  • a 6:30 PM ceremony means your guests are all going to be anticipating dinner, since you’re having your reception right at dinnertime. You definitely need to be clear that it’s a dessert reception so people don’t leave your wedding starving.
  • I personally don’t believe potlucks or asking guests to provide their own beverages is appropriate at a wedding.  The point of the reception is to thank your guests for coming to the ceremony, and that means providing food and drinks

I think overall, you need to evaluate your guest list so you can properly accomodate guests without having to tier your family and friends or asking them to bring their own food for the reception. 

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