Post # 1
I have been shopping for a dress for a while and I haven’t really felt that feeling of ‘this is the one.’ I don’t generally like shopping and after the first few salons it wasn’t fun – partially because I don’t like the attention and it has been stressing me out because my Mom insists on paying for my dress, but doesn’t have very much money so I was trying to keep it reasonable. At this point, I think I’ve tried on about 50 gowns. Last weekend we went shopping and we got the dress below. I like it, but don’t feel like it’s the prettiest dress I’ve ever worn. I don’t have dress butterflies over it. Or are dress butterflies only happen on SYTTD?
Do you think I made a mistake? Should I have held out until I felt butterflies (wedding is 9 months away)? I wanted something that didn’t look like every other dress and is memorable while still being bridal, but what little feedback I’ve gotten on it people don’t seem to love it and frankly I’m so sick of looking for a dress that I don’t know what I think of it or any other dress I try on lately.
Any advice/similar experiences?
Post # 2
I never felt there was ‘the ones. There were a lot that looked great and I never had some mind blowing moment, just considered it at picked the one I felt I liked best.
Expectations on dress shopping have been blow way put of proportion.
For what my opinion is worth you have a great figure and look amazing in that dress.:)
Post # 3
That dress looks fab on you! I don’t have my dress yet so can’t speak for butterflies but I know others who haven’t had them either but still have been perfectly happy in their dress on the day.
Post # 4
Urgh. Posted along post and silly glitchy site wouldn’t let me submit it.
Short version is other bees posted are right and you look wow in that dress.
Post # 5
expecting “butterflies” when trying on a dress is kind of ridiculous and it’s totally a construct of the “wedding industry” to pressure women into buying dresses that are thousands of dollars. If you’re comfortable in the dress and it’s in your budget, just go for it. FWIW that dress looks phenomenal on you.
Post # 6
I think your dress is lovely!
I didn’t have anything like butterflies. I tried on some dresses, went back to one and said “yup, let’s do this”. Bingo-bango done haha. I respond the same way to most things. Salad spinner and wedding dress= same reaction for me.
Post # 8
I think the crying and butterflies are more for television. You can love the dress you’ve chosen and not get emotional over it. That dress looks great on your figure!
Post # 9
Some people get butterflies, others don’t. Your dress is beautiful and you shouldn’t spend any time doubting it. Remember that it will look even better when it’s been tailored and accessorized and you’ve been glammed up.
side note to pp on this thread and lots of others- why all the hatred toward bridal shops??? Yes, SYTTD is overly dramatic reality tv, but lots of brides and their families do cry when they’ve found “the one.” if you don’t normally cry over silly things then don’t expect to cry about your dress, but I know lots of girls who cry when they see a puppy or when someone gives them a gift. Why is the dress any different?
Post # 10
When I went shopping with my mom we went to two store and tried on maybe 10 dresses before I found “the one”. It was a combination of this is the one that looks the best on me and is a reasonable price since my grandma was paying for it.
My mom and I are not super emotional people (at least we are not emotional over material things) so there were no tears or butterflies. It was a business transaction very similar to when we went prom dress shopping and we didn’t get butterflies or cry then. Shows like Say Yes to the Dress make girls thinks that if they don’t have some kind of cathardic moment then they’re doing something wrong. You do you! And FWIW that dress is stunning.
Post # 11
You look amazing in that dress, it is gorgeous.
Im currently on a hunt for a specific dress that I tried on a few months ago. I will tell you I did not get these butterflies that you see on TV, pretty sure some of those episodes are forced. But when I tried that dress on, I was comfortable, I liked how I felt in the dress and loved what the pattern on the dress did for me. I was able to imagine wearing the dress on my big day and I liked what I envisioned. But I did not cry or have butterflies or have this big dramatic moment. This dress is beautiful but when you get a chance, clear your mind and imagine yourself on your wedding day, in that vision, do you see yourself in that dress? Hope this helps.
Post # 12
That dress looks really lovely on you! I also didn’t get any dress butterflies. I found dress shopping to be frustrating and ended up getting a dress that was semi-custom. I liked my dress and I was happy with it, but even when my custom dress was complete, I STILL didn’t get butterflies. The most exciting part for me was putting on the dress, hair, makeup, etc. the day of my wedding; that’s when it felt real!
Post # 13
How do you feel when you try on regular clothes? Is there anything in your closet that you absolutely love and feel amazing in? Did you know right away when you first tried it on? I think people’s reactions depend on how they are normally, obviously. When I try something on that I end up loving, I pretty much know before I try it on and then it’s confirmed instantly once I try it on. Just “yup this is for me, i’ll buy it, moving on”. Same with my wedding dress. I was 99.9% sure it was the one before I tried it on. Once it was on, I was 100% sure so I bought it.
Post # 14
I didn’t get dres butterflies, and I think those episodes on SYTTD are definitely overproduced and dramatized for the purpose of reality TV. I knew my dress was the one because I didn’t want to take it off and I kept comparing it to others, plus I could envision myself being in that dress for the wedding.
If this is one that you “like” but aren’t actually feeling like it’s the prettiest you’ve ever worn, I would suggest not settling for it and continue to look. Are you trying on the same style of dress over and over again? Each time I went dress shopping, I browsed the dresses and pulled anything that had an element that I liked (lace, color, material, etc) even if it wasn’t the “shape” or “style” that I had in mind. I ended up with a dress TOTALLY different from my vision of dresses because I branched out.
Post # 15
I started dress shopping a couple of weeks ago. I’ve been to 4 shops and tried on around 7-10 dresses in each. I have not had any where I’ve had an emotional moment or a huge wow or tears etc and I don’t think I ever would! I’m just not the type to get emotional over it
its definitely not how you see on TV, you just have to go for something that you feel good in, would be happy wearing on the day and is a good price. I bought my dress today and although I didn’t have a huge wow moment I do really really like it, and I would have been gutted if it sold.
I think that dress looks lovely, it really flatters your figure! You have amazing curves and it shows them off