Post # 1
Fiance and I both come from very conservative backgrounds where both drinking and dancing are frowned upon. Neither of us are that conservative, but in the three years we’ve been together, we have never danced and I think I’ve seen him drink twice (which might be once more than I’ve drank in the last three years). So, in order to not offend anyone (and because we truly don’t care), we’ve opted not to have drinking or dancing at the reception.
What now though? I’ve been to lots of other receptions where there was also no drinking and dancing and they were just boring.
Is anyone else not having a dance? Any other ideas on how to keep our guests entertained? We’re considering having a late morning wedding and serving lunch instead of dinner, so a dance is not expected, but I still don’t know what we’d do for the afternoon after lunch is served.
Post # 3
Can you hire some other entertainment instead? A magician? Dancers? They even rent out casino tables (like craps, blackjack, roulette) and you can play with fake money and have a prize that the person with the most fake chips wins.
Post # 4
I went to a beautiful wedding that was held in the mid afternoon with no dancing, and I had a great time. I don’t think they did anything special in particular to pass the time. They did have an afterparty at a rooftop bar where you could have drinks or just soda, your option. I thought that was nice.
Post # 5
We did that, and it wasn’t boring! Our guests sat in groups with their friends or family, and socialized over good food. It was only 2, 2.5 hours though, so nobody had too much time to wonder what next.
Post # 6
I think you can definitely still have fun. Think about all the parties or BBQs or realy anything of that nature–a lot of those have no drinking, and I’m sure most did not have dancing. Still fun though, right?! I don’t know what your theme is or anything, but I have seen super cute carnival themed weddings where there are games and things set up. They always look so awesome and fun.
Just take the day to enjoy your friends and family. I think they will just be glad to be there celebrating with you.
Post # 7
We aren’t drinking or dancing at our wedding either and I’m worried about the same thing…I’m hoping everyone will just socialize and have a laid back time. We are doing it in the afternoon though so hopefully no one is surprised by the no drinking and dancing. I’m interested to see what other people suggest to do…
Post # 8
I think it’s a good idea to have the reception earlier in the day. Maybe you could plan some fun activities for your guests like wedding mad libs:http://www.etsy.com/search?includes%5B%5D=tags&q=wedding+guest+libs. Have a photobooth, do the “Shoe Game”:http://www.dj-tips-and-tricks.com/wedding-game-shoe-game.html, etc. And like a PP said, maybe have it for only 2 or 3 hours instead of 4 or 5?
Post # 9
What about a contra dance?
Its old fashioned folk dancing, with fiddle or banjo music, very conservative – but actually lots of fun!
Post # 10
I think that having a morning or afternoon wedding is a good idea. I think that this way people’s expectations of drinking and dancing will be lessened; however, I do think that you should still have some sort of music for ambiance.
Your reception will not need to be as long as some other other receptions, I think that figuring out your timeline (of entrance, cake cutting, speeches) will be key to keeping people engaged.
I don’t typically like slideshows where they turn off the lights and you have to watch it quietly, but I think that it is nice to have playing during speeches or maybe when the cake is served.
A photo booth would also add something for your guests to do.
Post # 11
We’re doing that too.
We’re going to have dinner music/ live entertainment (friends playing accoustic guitars)
Then we’re doing a movie. I know it sounds weird (and some people might leave, but thats okay) Fiance and I are big movie buffs, and we go on Friday night date nights every week (and we’ve been dating for 5 years) Our Wedding will be no exception… it’s a Friday night too 🙂
I’m planing on having a popcorn machine, toasting with jones sodas, and movie theatre candy as favors.
We’re going to watch the Princess Bride.. (It’s romantic, about marriage, and has enough action for the guys.)
Our theme is going to be “Join us on our first date as a married couple – Dinner and movie on us!”
Post # 12
@mandigrl04: That sounds like a lot of fun!
Post # 13
@mandigrl04: That sounds like a lot of fun!
Post # 14
I’d suggest a morning or afternoon reception, so people are less likely to expect alcohol and dancing.
If your religion prohibits dancing, presumably it also prohibits watching dancing, and gambling?
People will mix and mingle, eat their food, drink their beverages, and still have a good time without the drinks and dancing.
Post # 15
I went to a friend’s wedding at a small location. No room for a dance floor. They were saving money, so no alcohol. They rented a karoke machine, and had a first song together before all the guests joined in.
Post # 16
We’re doing games for our reception; there are tons out there. We’re doing the shoe game and also doing a surprise awards ceremony for the people who have helped us out with the wedding planning. That way it’s interactive and makes our guests feel important.