(Closed) No engagement ring, but still engaged?

posted 11 years ago in Rings
  • poll: For the engaged bees: Do you have an engagement ring?

    Yes. He proposed with a ring.

    Yes. He proposed or we discussed getting married, and then he got me a ring later.

    No. He proposed or we dicussed getting married, decided to get married, never got a ring.

    other, please explain.

  • Post # 3
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    DH proposed with a ring (he picked it out without my knowledge although we talked a little bit about what kind of ring I’d like)

    I definitely don’t think you need a ring to be engaged. 

    Post # 4
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    When I was first engaged two years ago (haha!) I didn’t have a ring. He actually bought a cz a little later as a placeholder and last year bought me a simple ring.  So I chose other because I didnt have a ring at first, but I do have one now.

    Post # 5
    11050 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My fiance proposed with a ring, but I wouldn’t have minded and would’ve found it funny and romantic if he had used a plastic ring from a Christmas cracker or anything else for that matter.

    Post # 6
    1726 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    For me personally, I don’t consider engagment without a ring to be engagement. If I did, I wouldn’t have any business on the waiting board, LOL. We have already agreed that we are getting married, we know when the wedding will be, and he technically did ask me if I would marry him a long while ago. But neither one of us considered that a proposal. Still waitin on that ring! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 7
    29 posts
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’ve been together nearly 14 years. We alwways knew we wanted to be married, just hated the idea of a “wedding.” But, we decided about 7 weeks ago to finally bite the bullet!  We’re planning a small wedding to take place on October 16th.  No engagement ring needed for us.

    Post # 8
    258 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we technically discussed getting married, and then he bought the ring a few weeks later and surprised me with a proposal. I actually had to give him a little prodding too, because he had started telling family members, ad I was putting off telling anyone until I had a ring on my finger.

    Post # 9
    7298 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Engaged means you have the intent to marry and it’s the time between the proposal and marriage. If you are planning then you are technically engagaed.

    I considered myself an engaged lady in waiting. lol We’ve decided on a date, booked a venue, set a budget (which has been cut in half by a recent lay off but I hope we get a response on the classified boards about his invite designs.) but he hasn’t gotten me the ring yet. Ugh!

    Post # 10
    2486 posts
    Buzzing bee

    My Fiance did have a ring when he proposed but I see nothing wrong with not having a ring. I agree with Miss Tattoo, all that matters is that the two of you plan to marry. A ring doesn’t change that. 

    Post # 11
    1243 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I was proposed to without a ring.  A couple of weeks later, we picked one out together.  I guess I was ring-less for a bout 1 1/2 months.  It was really important to both of us that we found something that we both loved.  We consider the ring “ours” not mine.  ๐Ÿ™‚  It was really cute when we first got it and my FH walked around showing his family “our” ring.  ๐Ÿ˜€

    Once we had picked out the ring, I couldn’t wait to have it, but if we had not found something we both liked, I was fine waiting until we did.  

    You definitely don’t need a ring to be engaged.  To me, it’s all about the statement of intent.

    Post # 12
    2536 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I received a stunt double because the jewelry store messed up. We then used the money from the ring on the wedding, so I’m married with no ring. I don’t really care.

    Post # 13
    3457 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m other! I proposed to him. I never got a ring. He never got a ring. I’m happy with that. I do wear a ring I own on my left ring-finger. Some people think it’s an e-ring because it had bed 8 years since the last time I actually wore it. So I just go with it.

    Post # 14
    4496 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I was proposed to with a stand-in ring that he picked out himself. Afterward, we picked out a more permanent ring together. He wanted me to be surprised by the proposal, but he also didn’t want to drop $$ on a ring that he wasn’t sure I’d like. For me, this way was perfect!

    Post # 16
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    A proposal is a promise to wed, the ring is merely a symbol of that promise.  If he’s asked  you to marry him (or better yet, if you’ve picked a date), you’re engaged.  The ring is purely optional.

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