(Closed) no emotional attachment to dresses?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think my dress is boring, but I certainly don’t have the kind of “relationship” with it some ladies seem to. I’m not calling it “her” or giving it a name like it’s a pet!

The truth is, I’m not a girly girl. Wearing a dress is not typical or comfortable for me, so I wasn’t looking forward to shopping for one. I’m glad I found one that made my family cry. That’s about it.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ has us all thinking that we’re supposed to have an emotional meltdown when we find “THE” dress. I went to the fitting alone, and tried on probably 3 dresses. I picked the one that flattered me, and then I went and bought it online for cheaper, haha. 

Some of us are more excited about other details. Like, my venue is starting to really come together (we’re building an outdoor amphitheatre of sorts), and I get teary-eyed whenever I visit.

I think it’s okay to not be thrilled about a dress you’ll wear one time. As long as you look pretty and feel good, that’s all that matters.

Post # 6
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@caradcollins:  so not everyone cries like on say yes to the dress. also, hair/makeup plays a big role. i had doubts at the last fitting 3 days before the wedding, and i didnt feel like a bride til the day i put it on. but once it was on, it was awesome!! 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

To me I just wanted to look nice and I wanted to make my SO cry. That was pretty much my measure for whether or not it was a contender… 1. Does my body look BANGIN’ 2. Will he start balling like a giant baby 3. Will it photograph well. I found a dress I liked, I didnt cry, and I am happy with it. I don’t see the point in getting so emotionally attached to a dress. You are not alone. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@caradcollins:  I am also disappointed with how I feel about my dress. I never had “the moment” like on SYTTD. I just bought the first dress I liked better than others. Now I look at it and feel extreme remorse. I just don’t feel pretty in it. I’m hoping alterations will help.

Post # 9
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9675 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I feel the same way.  I didn’t cry at all, but I still think I looked awesome in it.  The one I bought is beautiful and it gave me some awesome CURVES and my mom and some other shoppers loved it as well.  I only tried on about 8-9 in one sitting and I bought it.

But sometimes I still feel like I’d like to keep trying on dresses because I didn’t try on that many, maybe I was just having too much fun playing dress up??  So I wonder if I should have tried on more dresses just because for some reason I think it should have taken me longer to make a decision…oh well.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am a girly girl and I do not feel an emotional attachment to my dress. I didn’t have an “OMG! This is the ONE!” moment – more like, after reviewing pictures of dresses I tried on, I decided I liked the draping of this dress best and it was the best price, so I bought it. That’s probably partly why I keep having second thoughts about my dress. I did have a couple THIS IS IT! moments while trying on dresses, but they were too expensive and I love a good deal almost as much as I love a pretty dress. 😉

Post # 11
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think the problem is TV shows and other people can build up the expectation that we should have this OMG moment of “it’s the one.”  I try to compare it to my fiance… I adore him, but it wasn’t love at first sight. Love builds over time, and when you know you have the one, you STOP looking.  Be happy with what you have, and move on to the next wedding challenge.  I am sure you look beautiful, and you will be happy with it in the long run.

Post # 12
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

 I liked most the dresses I tried but could NOT spend the amount they were asking. Bought one on Ebay that was a disaster so bought a cheap one at a bridal shop. The music is whats emotional to me, dress is quiet frankly hot and bothersome although no denying it’s pretty!

Post # 13
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I really liked my wedding dress, it was the exact style I wanted and I felt absolutely beautiful wearing it, but I have no gushing emotional attachment to it like what you see on TV shows.

Post # 14
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My major reaction when I got my dress and tried it on was, oh jeez, I’m going to be “a Bride.” Now I think my dress is beautiful but I’m just not super comfortable with “done” hair, lots of makeup and being the center of attention. My dress is really nice but I don’t, like, daydream about it or have the urge to keep trying it on. It’s no more (and no less) than what I’m going to be wearing the day I get married.

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