Post # 1
How common are engagement parties? I’ve been engaged for about a month now and our wedding is in September but we haven’t had an engagement party. I’m not familiar with the eitquette for if we have to have one, if we host it or does someone else, and how long after the engagement is it acceptable to have one if we do. Please help 🙂 thanks
Post # 3
We didn’t have one. Actually, I’ve never personally known a couple who did. Maybe it’s a regional thing but engagement parties aren’t really done where I’m from.
Post # 4
Engagement parties are to announce your engagement. So generally you have these before anyone outside of your parents know your engaged. The idea is that they invite everyone over for a “party” and then once everyone is there they make the happy announcement that you’re engaged. That way no one feels obligated to get you a gift or anything.
If your extended family, friends, etc already know you’re engaged, I’d say “skip it.” You can always have a regular cocktail party or bar-b-que with your fiance and family/friends just because. After all, you don’t really need a reason to have a party.
Oh, and I almost forgot… CONGRATULATIONS!!! yay!
Post # 5
We didn’t have one. And I’ve actually only been to one. Ever.
Post # 6
technically, if you do have one, someone else is supposed to throw it. Since your wedding is coming up pretty quickly, if you havent planned one yet, I wouldnt worry about it.
Post # 7
We got engaged on Christmas Eve. His mom wants to have an “engagement party” this summer because it’ll be really nice. I really won’t consider it an engagement party though considering almost everyone knows. It’d be more of a get together of family and friends.
Post # 8
we didnt have one either. our proposal was in front of our friends so I didnt really see the need. The wedding is expensive enough LOL
Post # 9
I’ve never heard of or been to a “real life” engagement party. I just see it in the magazines. From what I’ve seen, you are supposed to plan your own engagement party, or possibly other family members. I would think to throw it within 3 months of engagement if it’s gonna be a big party. But honestly, you can throw it anytime I suppose.
The closest thing I’ve seen in real life are friends who go back to their parents house an hour after they get engaged and pop open the champagne! I’ve never been a part of that either! 🙂
Post # 10
We’re not having one. I never known a couple who has had one. But my fiance’s cousin asked if we were having one and I was like…WHAT?? That’s not our style.
Post # 11
Meh, we didn’t have one and I’ve never been to one. I definitely don’t feel like we missed out, there are so many events related to the wedding, I felt like it was a bit excessive.
Post # 12
We didn’t have one either, my mom said she wanted to throw one but we lived out of state and the holidays were too busy so it just didn’t happen and now we’re 5 months out from the engagement and it seems sort of pointless… But that’s ok with me, I’ll have bridal parties later instead 🙂
Post # 13
We didn’t have one, nor have I ever been to one….or heard of anyone I know having one even. We just went out to dinner with my parents after he proposed (they were there, as were some of our friends who did a saber arch).
Post # 14
We didn’t have one, and I haven’t had friends that had one either. So I am not sure of the ettiquete on this.
Post # 15
Never been to one, didn’t have one 🙂
Post # 16
My family took us out to dinner to celebrate and everyone considered that to be our ‘engagement party’. I can’t imagine having another party on top of that, especially considering everyone under the sun already knows we’re engaged 🙂