(Closed) No Engagement Party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Typically an engagement party is thrown in your honor by someone other than you 🙂  And to be honest, I don’t know of ANYONE in my circle who has done this or attended one.  I just don’t think it’s as ‘common’ as it seems.  And nope, I didn’t have one either.  No worries, just enjoy planning!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

We didn’t have one and I’ve actually never been to one either!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We didn’t have one, and I don’t know anyone who has had one or been to one either. Maybe it’s a regional thing?

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We celebrated with a few friends the night we got engaged but didn’t have a Party, and I have never been to one either!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We didn’t have one. I really wanted one because I got engaged in a different state than a lot of my friends and family, but the situation at home is/was too complicated (my parents are getting a divorce) to expect everyone to be in the same room together. I don’t think they’re necessary for shorter engagements, but they are really nice if you have a long engagement.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve never been to one other than my own. Fiance parents both grew up very prim and proper as far as etiquette is concerned and really wanted to throw one for us, so they did. There were about 40-50 people there and it was very lovely, but I’ve never been to a formal engagement party other than my own.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My best friend had one, it was really nice actually- Other than her, I don’t think I’ve heard of too many other people having them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Engagement parties are not a necessity, and PP were right that they are usually thrown by someone other than the couple. This is my second marriage and we didn’t have an engagement party (and I didn’t have one for my first marriage).

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve never been to one – and we got engaged the week before my grandmother died, so I didn’t have one either.  Between the shower, rehearsal dinner, and other wedding stuff – I think it ends up getting to be a little over the top anyway.

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve actually been to two formal engagement parties, and both were lovely.   

Although I did not have a formal engagement party, soon after my Darling Husband and I became engaged, my parents hosted a summer cookout/picnic for some close family members who had not yet met Darling Husband and his children. I guess I could consider that to have been my enagement party. It was nice having the opportunity to introduce Darling Husband and his children to everyone. 🙂

I hope you are able to celebrate your engagement in a manner that is meaningful to you and your FI!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My fiance’s family is from another country so instead of an engagement party, we’re going to have a second party sometime after the wedding in his home country. So we’re totally not doing this. Although my brother and his wife did do an engagement party. My parents hosted that for them.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My mom and I talked about an engagement party, but it turns out neither of us could figure out what to do. We’d never been to one, so we weren’t sure who threw it [parents?], who to invite [girls only? girls and guys?], and if they’re supposed to bring gifts. I’m pretty sure we’ll just nix that one and wait for the bridal shower.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We didn’t have one, and have never been to one!

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

They are pretty common here in Australia. We had one thrown for us. It was a fun night and a chance to celebrate with friends and family since we had a long engagement. Here it is normally thrown within a month or two of the actual engagement- anymore time (without good reason) is seen as weird.

Every engagement party I have been to has been either at a restaurant or in a local hall. Most have a DJ, cake, open bar, food etc.

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