Post # 1
okay… I don’t want to sound aLL bridezilla, but I am a little bummed that no one has thrown my FH and I an engagement party. We have known each other for 11 years and have dated for 6, and we have been engaged for 5 motnsh now. I thought that after he proposed SOMEONE would offer. I just think it would be nice to have our families and really close friends come together to celebrate our engagement formally. My family is in no position to throw one (my mother is ill and father is a drunk). So what do I do?
Post # 3
I am not having an engagement party … I am not going to miss it, but I guess if you feel you NEED to have one you could throw one for yourself. I don’t think they are necessary (and here in Canada I don’t think I know ANYONE who does have them).
Post # 4
You live with it. Would it have been nice? Yes. But no one is obligated and you REALLY shouldnt ask anyone to.
Post # 5
Throw one yourself!
Have a come celebrate with us party!
@ Ms Mini – Hello fellow Canadian!!!!!!!
Post # 6
Maybe you could talk to some of your Bridesmaid or Best Man about throwing one and see if they’d be willing to help you out. I basically told my matron of honor, who happens to be my sister, what I was looking for and she went out and did all the coordinating.
Post # 7
I agree with Future Mrs. Martin – throw one yourself!
Side note…we thought we wouldn’t have one thrown for us, (it didn’t even occur to us as something that was done, actually) but when we went to visit his family in Iowa (we live in FL) we had two thrown for us in the same weekend!
Post # 8
I’m with Future Mrs. Martin, throw one yourself!
We didn’t have an engagement party either. My Fiance invited some of his closest friends and their significan others to celebratory dinner the day after (planned ahead since they all knew he was going to propose); but that was it.
and hello to all Canadians! I am one too!
Post # 9
We are also not having an engagement party… but my finance is deployed to Iraq so it would pointless to throw one for just me! 🙂
I think most the time engagement parties are held to introduce everyone to each other especially the bridal party and family but since you have been dating so long I would assume most people already know one another. But you can definitely host your own party to “celebrate your engagement”. To save on money make it BYOB/W (bring your own beer/wine) and serve appetizer-type food? I wouldn’t expect any gifts from this party (except maybe hotess gifts) but it would be a great way to get everyone together.
Post # 10
I’ve never been to an engagement party. I don’t think they’re very common around here. The knot says that it’s the bride’s parents are supposed to throw the party, or offer to throw one first, which could be why the in laws didn’t offer.
Post # 11
I never even heard of engagement parties until I hit the wedding boards. No one I know has ever had one!
Post # 12
I’ve never been invited to an engagement party either. I dont even know anyone who has had one. I think it depends on how long you’ve been together. If it’s been 8 years like me and Fiance..you get one because everyone knows you will stop complaining. lol. just kidding. I don’t know-doesn’t seem like that big of a deal. throw yourself one.
Post # 13
I have not said anything to anyone about it. I am thinking about throwing one myself.. I dont know
Post # 14
I’ve only ever heard of engagement parties on the internet. Unless all of your friends and family have them, I wouldn’t feel too slighted.
Post # 15
I’m not having one! With both of us working and all of our friends and family being busy as well, I am just happy that we will have wedding showers 🙂
Post # 16
throw your own!
im asking my aunt if we can use her townhouse since we are tiny-apartment dwellers, but that’s it. i too hoped someone would offer, but they didn’t and im a “take things into my own hands” kind of girl, so that’s where we are.
we’re keeping it simple but im doing it myself, and that’s O.K.