(Closed) No engagementbut we are choosing a wedding date….WTF?!

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Well… do you have to have a ring to be “engaged” DH and I got engaged 3 mths before getting my ring.

Just saying… we were able to start planning w/o the “sparkly thingy”

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2010

In some ways that’s great because after the ring, EVERYONE asks ‘so, have you set a date?’.  People will literally be asking the day after you get engaged.  You will have something to say. 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I just had to laugh when I saw your title…Fiance and I did the exact same thing! But we had been ring shopping, and talking about styles and everything, and wanted to get married before the winter (this was in March,) which is a relatively short engagement, so we we almost booked our reception hall even before we were formally engaged! (we ended up getting officially engaged just before we put the first money down–I’ll always wonder if the lady who is in charge of the hall noticed that when I first met with her I didn’t have a ring, but when I dropped off the deposit, I did!)

As far as advice? Just let him take the lead. Dont stress about it. And are you talking Oct. 8 this year? Wow! that is pretty soon! But that’d be awesome! (I’m sure if he was willing to have such a serious conversation with you, that he is well on his way to buying a ring!)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

If you need the ring to be engaged then let him know how much planning goes into as wedding so you would need to make your engagement official soon.

If you don’t need a ring, then get to planning and make sure he comes/ makes decisions everywhere with you…. let him know you need to book soon so you need to make your engagement official (however way he is planning on doing that).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

I started planning 4 months before we were officially engaged. It was difficult because the people we let in on it were always like “oh….you don’t have a ring?” and thought it wasn’t “official”. i wouldn’t pressure him and just try to keep yourself from going mad. mine ended up doing something really sweet and sentimental so it was all good in the end, but waiting did suck!

Post # 10
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had a date picked and vendors booked before I got my ring.  It was fun because we had some of the stuff already taken care of and could just enjoy sharing the news with everyone.

Post # 12
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Newbee

what do you mean, he has the ring in the cupboard??? you found it ?

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My boyfriend and I are the same way – waiting to get a ring because of money, but already semi-planning it for next summer! I’m glad I’m not the only one who starts planning before the ring 🙂

Post # 16
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Worker bee

I would absolutely not have started planning our wedding unless I had a ring on my finger. Maybe I’m stubborn, maybe i’ve been disappointed too much (NOT by my DH, by previous relationships). It’d just feel weird to me. To each his own though, if that’s the way you want to do it, fab! Happy planning!

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