Post # 1
Our venue says we cannot have entree options for a sit-down dinner. However if someone is a vegetarian they can request a vegetarian dinner. The dinner would include a fish course and a meat course. If you were a guest, would you be pissed that you weren’t able to pick what you wanted for dinner (unless you were a vegetarian)? We do have another option to have a buffet-style dinner instead of sit-down with other options but we are leaning towards sit-down because the other meals on the wedding weekend will all be buffet style. What do you guys think? .
Post # 3
I dont eat meat, so I would probably trade with Darling Husband and double up on the fish. I think if youre only doing the one option thing that maybe a chicken dish is more of a crowd pleaser.
Post # 4
Wait, what? So people can’t choose? That would be a HUGE waste of food, imo.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be pissed unless it turned out to be something I didn’t eat. My fi however would be pissed, he’s all about food & lots of choices. If it were me I’d still go with the sit down, personally I hate buffets.
Post # 6
That is kind of strange…. I feel like a lot of people don’t eat/like red meat and a lot of people don’t eat/like seafood. Thats difficult. I really don’t like buffets (not just at weddings, pretty much anywhere…) but I think I’d really have to consider it on this one. I just don’t see how you could pick one entree across the board that everyone would be happy with.
Post # 7
There is no option at our reception unless you’re veg. I’m not concerned about it and I don’t think you should be either 🙂 its your wedding , serve whatever you want!
Post # 8
We didn’t offer a choice as we had a full meat-free menu. We asked for people’s dietary restrictions and allergies ahead of time and for some people, I had their dishes slightly modified by the caterer to exclude anything they were allergic to.
We had people that were upset that it was meat-free, but we didn’t get complaints about the lack of choices. The plus side about having a meat-free meal is that I didn’t have to worry about whether someone only eats white meat or fish or if they were vegetarian.
I prefer a sitdown because I hate jostling for elbow room at a buffets and balancing a plate back to my table. I don’t think I would mind if it’s something I didn’t really like because IMO it’s just ONE meal out of all the meals I’m consuming in my entire life and I’m not coming to a wedding for the food (although, of course, good food is always a plus). If the entree wasn’t something I liked, I can eat extra dessert or just eat the sides.
Post # 9
This is why we are going with buffet. I hate going to a wedding and getting Hobson’s Choice. It’s usually something I end up hating, and then I starve until I gorge myself on cake.
We are having a menu option selection in our RSVP. Aside from chicken, beef and fish, there will be an additional option people can check which will read “ALL THE FOOD”.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We only had 1 entree for our 35 guest wedding. It was NBD. We designed the entire thing as a dinner party, and I never serve 2 entrees when we are throwing a dinner party. Besides, it would have totally thrown in a new layer of complication for selecting the wine and beer pairings for the course. We also knew our guest list extremely well, so we knew that they would all thoroughly enjoy a perfectly done, buttery smooth filet mignon.
Post # 11
We’re most likely going with a dual-plate option, it includes a piece of filet mignon and a lobster tail. If you only want one of them, guests can just ask and have double of the other. We will also have a vegetarian option. Of my friends and family that i’ve mentioned this to, they all think it sounds great. I don’t personally know anyone that doesn’t eat red meat OR fish, everyone I know eats at least one of them.
Post # 12
Exactly what I was about to say.
Post # 13
If someone was providing me with dinner I would not be pissed. I have been to weddings where there is no menu option- it’s no big deal. If it’s something I don’t like, I just don’t eat it and eat more bread (and cake…) 🙂 I think it’s great that you will have two major items (beef & fish or whatever) in the main course- it makes not haven’t a menu option even less of an issue.
Post # 14
@buzzer713: When you say “The dinner would include a fish course and a meat course” do you mean that everyone will get both fish and meat (as two separate course), or do you mean that some people will get fish and others will get meat (as the main course)? If it’s the first, then I say no problem. When you’re hosting people and feeding them, they should appreciate what is provided. If they don’t like the fish, they can skip it. If they don’t like the meat, they can skip that. But if it’s the second way, I would not do that. I don’t think it’s right to give different people different food when nobody has any choice in the matter. I understand this is done in Australia, but I find it really odd and would be so sad as a guest if I got something I didn’t really like and had to watch others enjoy something I would have loved.
Post # 15
I’m sorry, but you should get some sort of choice. I’m not into buffets, so it would have been a deal breaker for me.
Post # 16
As long as the food is good, I wouldn’t care.