(Closed) No entree option? Would you be pissed?

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If I’m a guest in someone’s home, I eat what they serve me, unless it violates a dietary restriction, in which case I politely decline and have extra salad. That’s being a polite guest. Being a guest at someone’s wedding is no different; I’m not entitled to a choice of entree. It’s extremely considerate to offer choices, esp to vegetarians/vegans, but it’s in no way required, and if someone gets pissed about that, they’re the issue.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lovekiss:  +1

That’s a good point. I didn’t think of it that way but when we attend dinner parties, there’s usually just one set entree for everyone and we all sit and enjoy it.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This isn’t that uncommon — I’ve come across a lot of preset menus. I don’t think it’s a big deal, but you HAVE to make sure you like the food, obviously.

 

(If this is an issue, maybe you can just present it to guests as a beef or vegetarian option? As opposed to no option at all? Make some lemonade with those lemons?)

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve been to weddings where there was no entree option provided and it was not a problem. However at both, they served poultry, (chicken at one and duck at the other),  which I think is more universally liked.  If you decide to go this route I suggest that you create a menu card so guests will know what they’re going to be served so they can plan ahead with their significant other to switch if necessary, (I would give my meat to DH and take his fish).

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper

I eat pretty much anything, so personally, I wouldn’t care.

However, it was VERY important to us to provide our guests with options, whether that meant paying extra, or having a buffet (which with a wedding our size is more than do-able), as had we had to pick, we would have had no choice but to go with chicken, because it’s a ‘crowd pleaser’. Which would have been fine; everyone would have eaten it. But, not everyone would have enjoyed it much, myself included, and we wanted our guests to enjoy the food.

So, if you do decide to do the sit-down dinner and not offer a choice, you’ll need to go with a ‘safe’ option IMO.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have been to weddings where an option was offered, but I have also been to weddings where there was no choice.  I personally don’t see it as a big deal, but I don’t have any dietary restrictions.  If I did’t like what’s being served, I just gave it to my SO, who was happy to eat anything.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went to one wedding without an entree choice. There weren’t courses though, everyone just got a plate of chicken covered with bacon, and mashed potatoes covered with bacon. It was like, “hope you like bacon!!!” It wasn’t my favorite thing ever, but it was a free meal.

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t eat fish and I am not a vegetarian, so not being able to choose would bother me as I would most likely not eat.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding had a dual entree.  I found out two weeks before the wedding that that meant the guests didn’t choose which one they wanted.  I was so upset.  It turned out being a hit, and I heard rave reviews about the food and having both on everyone’s plate.  The only option was for vegetarian – one person got that.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@AlbertaLolita: +1

We’re serving the same starter & main course to everyone, as it would be a logistical nightmare otherwise. I’m providing them with a nice dinner & lots of wine; I would be pissed if they were pissed! To me it’s just like you’re invited to someone for dinner, they’ll provide you with one meal – if you don’t like it, too bad – you still do your best to eat it & hope that the dessert will be awesome.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@geekspice:  Exactly! It would be rude for a guest to be “pissed” over not being able to decide what they are having for dinner.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding had a dual entree.  I found out two weeks before the wedding that that meant the guests didn’t choose which one they wanted.  I was so upset.  It turned out being a hit, and I heard rave reviews about the food and having both on everyone’s plate.  The only option was for vegetarian – one person got that.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’d either stick with chicken or do the buffet. Red meat & fish are tricky because of health/allergy issues for a lot of people…I normally don’t prefer buffets, but I probably would do one in this case : /

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