Post # 1
I am new here and am feeling really stressed 🙁
We are getting married on 26th August 2016 (next week) and are only having a very small wedding (30 people), this is for both the day and evening, we both have BIG families so will be having a party later on in the year for everyone to attend. We are having our day in the following order; ceremony, photos/drinks, wedding breakfast, mingle and chat? then a buffet for people to have for tea.
We have decided not to have a full blown disco with a DJ etc. however we were informed there will be a small dance area, with the option to have our iPod plugged into some speakers (which we agreed to). My Wedding Coordinator has told me today that the speakers are not loud enough for a ‘loud disco. She said ‘Please note that the speakers are ideal for music for your ceremony and wedding meal but probably wouldn’t be substantial for a loud evening disco.’
We have been critisised enough for having a small wedding and ‘out of the normal’… and were not sure whether to have a first dance. So my two questions are:
1) Even though music is not going to be substantial for a loud evening disco, do we still have our first dance? I just have images of people thinking it’s odd having our first dance to music that isn’t very loud, like being played from a CD 🙁
2) Is it a major problem there is not going to be a proper disco? They can still have a ‘boogie’ if they’d like, the option is there, we just didn’t see the need for a full blown disco due to the small number of guests we’re having.
Any thoughts/advice are appreciated 🙁 I am really stressing out!
Post # 2
We are in a somewhat similar situation. We are having about 50-60 people, so bigger than yours, and it’s at night. Our reception is at a nice resturant. We are using their speakers and rented a very small dance floor. We really want to do a first dance, so we are and then we are just going to play an iPod playlist that we put together. If people dance, they dance; if they don’t, well, that’s fine too. We’re only out the time we took putting together the playlist and then cost of the dance floor (which isn’t a total loss because we’ll still get to have our first dance). It’s going to be totally fine, and I would do exactly what you plan on doing.
Post # 3
Thank you so much for replying, you’ve made me feel so much better! People keep telling me it’s our day and it’s what we want, but I just know that people tend to have the expectation of a wedding being enormous with 100s of people (I don’t even know 100s of people!! haha
). I wish you all the best with your wedding in September 🙂 xx
Post # 4
Honestly, I think because the music will be quieter, people will be quieter too, and focus far more on your first dance. I’ve been to weddings where I couldn’t even see the bridal couple properly during their first dance. Yours will be intimate and beautiful!
Post # 5
We have the same thing as you. 30 guests and no DJ. We are having an afternoon ceremony and then a plated sit down meal after, and the venue said we could plug in an iPod if we wanted for a first dance or during dinner (or just have the restaurant music playing). We aren’t doing a first dance, but I certainly wouldn’t find it strange if someone did. It’s tradition! And honestly, I think it would be more odd to have a loud, booming DJ for just 30 people.
Like it was said above, with a smaller group it will be quieter (and a lot of times at wedding, it’s the DJ that makes it so loud) so I don’t think you have to worry about the volume for your dance. These are 30 of your closes family and friends – they love you and it will be wonderful!