(Closed) NO excuse for getting guests' names wrong!!!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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11517 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have a very common first name that can be spelled about a dozen different ways – it’s very common for it to be spelled incorrectly.  I don’t know if it’s ever been done on a wedding invite (although my last name was left off a seating chart once..not sure why).

Post # 18
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5187 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsRugbee:  What’s the fuss about? It was nice of them to invite you to their engagement party. People make spelling mistakes sometimes. I’m sure it wasn’t their intent to offend you.

Post # 19
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4844 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We tried our best. In some cases, we asked family members for the correct spelling and they gave us incorrect answers. My name is frequently mis spelled. Personally, I don’t find it that offensive. : 

Post # 20
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve got one better than a misspelling… My fiancé and I had just gotten engaged (we’d been dating for just over a year) when we received a Save the Date from a friend of his family. They not only left off his title (which he was miffed at) but the kicker was that they referred to me as “and Guest”. We gave them a pass, I mean, I’ve never met the girl and Fiance isn’t on Facebook anymore. (Although I am friends with his entire family)

Well cut to a couple of weeks ago, when we’ve been engaged for almost a year and I sent out Save the Dates of our own a couple of months ago… We received the wedding invite and… yep, I’m still “Guest”. Needless to say if she can’t take the trouble to find my name, I can’t take the trouble to send a gift.

Post # 21
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I had to invite people I really didn’t want to my wedding. It was like pulling teeth to get their addresses let alone the correct spelling for names. I don’t care how I spelled some of them and was not about to research the right way. Been married two years and still receive invites addressed to me and guest, I didn’t realize I should be offended.

Post # 22
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723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Our housekeeper always spells my name wrong even though my name is clearly on the check we give her each week. Some people just don’t get it, I try not to take it personally!

Post # 23
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve had to re-address two envelopes because I realized I misspelled people’s names. In one case, I misspelled the person’s first AND last name! It’s super important to me to spell everyone’s names right, but, apparently I made mistakes anyway. Luckily I am weeks away from mailing so I have time to double-check them.

I think I got them all right on the STDs, except for my friend’s girlfriend who apparently has a non-standard variation of her name that I didn’t know about (she’s not on Facebook). As soon as I realized her actual spelling I emailed her to apologize, and made sure her invite was definitely spelled correctly. 

Post # 24
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7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsRugbee:  My name gets misspelled ALL THE TIME. On top of that, my last name is hyphenated and people screw that up too. They only use dad’s name or they run the names together like they’re one. It’s so weird. Like you said, especially with Facebook, there’s really no excuse. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I do agree that when somebody can easily find your name on Facebook to verify the spelling, it’s bizarre that they’d get it wrong.  I had a fairly close friend do this several times with my last name when writing me checks and sending me an STD/invitation, and I finally worked up the courage to mention it (ok… I lied… I actually asked my Fiance to tell her Fiance to tell her…).

My aunt also consistently spells my FI’s name wrong, but I brush it off because he has a Vietnamese name that is pronounced COMPLETELY differently from how it’s spelled, and she’s only met him once.  

Post # 26
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4413 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@Overjoyed:  WOW. That is bad. My maiden name was an absolute mouthful and had punctuation in it (I was a St.) so computers hated it and I always had to check in for things with the help of a person — I could never just do it myself at a kiosk. I stopped by the Social security office to change my name roughly five minutes after we got married, haha.

Also, my Father-In-Law often misspells my first name. But not always. He likes a little variety, I guess. I’m like, I AM YOUR DAUGHTER NOW. LEARN HOW TO SPELL MY NAME.

Post # 27
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10635 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I had a bunch of wrong last names for our wedding invitations.  I got them from Father-In-Law.  I did check facebook to double check the spelling for some friends!

My first name is frequently spelled incorrectly.

Post # 28
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804 posts
Busy bee

I genuinely don’t understand how people can fail so comprehensively at writing names down correctly – as everyone has said – it’s not (normally) hard to find it out!

My first name is a European spelling of a common name and my surname is very unusual and people are generally completely crap at spelling both parts. I am grateful when people spell it correctly but even relatives and some childhood friends can’t cope with it – it has made me very conscientious when it comes to spelling other peoples’ names. 

If I wound myself up everytime someone got it wrong, I’d be a very unhappy person!

Post # 29
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629 posts
Busy bee

SO’s name gets misspelled all the time. We went to a wedding in April where his name was spelled wrong in different ways on both the invitation and the place card. He’s used to it by now, and I’m close enough to the couple to be understanding. However, I’m vigilant with spellings, so I will probably check 100 times before we send out anything. SO is horrible when it comes to spelling anything, so he can stamp and seal 🙂

Post # 30
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5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

ABSOLUTELY.  I get my name spelled wrong on invitations from DH’s mom’s side of the family all the time, and it drives me bonkers.  People will message me on Facebook where my name is literally on the same screen as what they’re writing, sometimes only inches away, AND THEY STILL GET IT WRONG.

I found out after the fact that I had misspelled my mom’s friend’s name (a lady who isn’t on Facebook) because my mom had given me all the name and address information and misspelled it there.  I was mortified when I found out.

Post # 31
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I need to vent here!!! Had a 250 person guest list. I was responsible for about 210 of those, my fiance needed to get the info for about 40. When it was all finished, I did all of the cutting, gluing, addressing, and assembling for the invitations. Sent them all out, and then I find out my fiance gave me the wrong last name for his own mother’s boyfriend!! Just straight up wrong last name. I guess he just thought that what his mom’s bf’s last name was? He’s not sure how it happened. I am SO EMBARRASED that one of the most important invitations was sent out with such a ridiculous error, especially because I feel I need to put in a lot of effort to impress his mom. I’m going to send her another corrected invite because I know this is the sort of thing she would typically save.

Aghhhh I was so (internally) angry with my fiance! He apologized, and I know there’s no point in actually getting mad, but come on!

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