(Closed) NO excuse for getting guests' names wrong!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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372 posts
Helper bee

I have one of those names that tends to get misspelled and it sometimes is, even on name place tags and things. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. People are human and sometimes mistakes get made.

Post # 48
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had typed up our guest list and addresses in Word to keep me organized. Fiance or I must have ran a spell check, because a few names were changed. Fiance caught one before the invitations were addressed, but I didn’t catch one and was MORTIFIED when I looked over the guestlist after the fact. She didn’t say anything, and I have since made sure it is correct for when I make out thank you cards and the seating chart.

Post # 49
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@ieatunicorns:  Right? I’m only human and hand addressed every invite. There may be a mistake or two. Get over it! If you can’t, don’t come.

Post # 50
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsRugbee: If you’re on Facebook with them, there really is no excuse. I did butcher a few names myself with our invitations though! DH has cousins in New Zealand and they’re not on Facebook. He told me their names were Glenn, Mark, Jed, and Robyn. Well….I found out after that they were actually Glyn, Marc, Ged, and Robin (I always thought Robin was the male version and Robyn was the female version!), and the reason I found out was because their mother (DH’s aunt) called to “inform” me. Erm, thanks…..even though you live in New Zealand, I’ve never met you, DH hasn’t seen you in 15 years, and your invitations were just a perfunctory courtesy, knowing you’d never actually attend. I blamed it on DH in the end….not my family, I just went off what he told me!

ETA: And…yes….that was a long-distance call from New Zealand to let me know!

 

Post # 51
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Whenever there is a holiday and my aunt gives me a card she always spells my name completly wrong! I never get offended by it, but I feel that on a wedding invitation they should at least put in the effort to spell all the guests name right! 

Post # 52
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have a pretty common nickname that is spelled two different ways and most people spell it in a way that I don’t. It doesn’t really bother me anymore.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrsRugbee:  ah, I just did this to someone and I feel awful!! I addressed all the invitations myself, and Fiance has a married couple that are friends of his. I only ever met them once and I am not friends with them on Facebook or anything. Before I sent any of his side of the invites out, I had him check and double check that all the names were spelled correctly. Well, he insisted that they were so I sent everything out. Lo and behold, this couple’s RSVP came back and she correctly spelled her name “Lorin” and not “Lauren” as I had addressed it. I now feel like a huge idiot and short of calling to apologize, I don’t know if I should just let it go? I don’t want her to think it was intentional ignorance or non-caring on my part :/

Post # 55
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Newbee

My name is so simple it never gets misspelled, but unfortunately, our two daughters have often taken offence at receiving a card, or even an award, with incorrect spellings of their names.  Our oldest, Katelyn, has been overheard telling her computer, “Yes, that is how I spell my name–I think I should know.”  For some people, their name is an important expression of their identity as a unique individual.

For our younger daughter’s wedding, there were a few guests with uncommon spellings like “Cyndi” or “Bryan”, but I’ve known them for years, so the different spelling is just part of who they are.  A Dutch family was on the guest list so I was extra careful with their names and I think they all were spelled correctly on the invitations and the place cards.  It is really a matter of courtesy to at least make the effort to confirm correct spellings and pronunciations of people’s names.  However, if mistakes do occur, most people will accept a simple and sincere apology, as long as you don’t try to make excuses or blame others.

Post # 56
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsRugbee:  Yea I’m pretty much with you on that. Although I don’t have facebook and I do know that I messed up my nephew’s name (it didn’t occur to me to ask until after the invitations went out, as I have another relative with the same name and a different spelling) and I used FI’s friend’s nickname on his because that’s what he goes by and I’m not sure he would be comfortable with me using his government name. Also, I accidentally called my friend “Jr” instead of “III” but I would have no way of knowing that except the letter was returned to me and I showed his sister for a laugh and she pointed it out.. lol

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

lol. i got married recently and received a wedding invitation for my cousin’s wedding in the mail (he and his fiance were both invited to our wedding and were rude enough to not send back the rsvp OR answer my facebook message where i asked if they were coming.  i could also see that they read it since facebook said so) that said:

Miss Li612  and guest

 

my sister’s said

 

Miss Li612’s sister and Mr. Li612’s husband’s name.

 

…awkward

 

 

 

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

We just got an invite to a friend of mine’s wedding.  They mispelled my fiance’s last name (which is my soon-to-be last name).  Granted, it is slightly more common to add the extra letter in the middle, but not necessary.  Like “Donaldson” when it should be “Donalson” or something (hard to come up with a similar one…).  And this is after we sent them a save the date for our wedding, so…  I triple checked their names to make sure I didn’t make the same mistake!

My first name is already always butchered (it’s Cara, and is always misheard as “Karen” or spelled “Kara”) but my last name is usually fine…  but now I know I’ll get double misspelled names once I change my last name!

 

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

My mom got a few names spelled wrong from her wedding guest list so therefore, I addressed them wrong.  One was to a Mr. and Mrs. BUT apparently the husband died and she neglected to tell me! Felt like such an a-hole for that…but it wasn’t my fault!

Post # 60
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

That sucks.  I’ve never had my name spelt wrong (which is surprising because it’s a tough one!) and I REALLY hope that I didn’t mess anyone’s name up…but I’m terrible at editing and I had never met a bunch of the guests (his family).  

 

 

 

I did try to edit carefully and had a second person edit the list, but I feel like I must have a made a mistake or two.  Honestly, some people are just poor at that particular skill.  I’m not saying it’s an excuse, but it’s a reason not to take it personally.

 

 

 

Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@lanalnoco:  lol I’m going to guess, is you’re mother’s name Aimee? My 3 yr old daughter is named it and it’s always spelled wrong.

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