(Closed) NO excuse for getting guests' names wrong!!!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@chanara:  Lynne. She gets Lyn, Lynn, even Lin… but never Lynne.

Post # 63
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

My name is “Rachel”. People can’t even get that right. I’m called “Rachael”, “Racheal” or even “Rebecca”. They also seem to have a blind spot for my last name and spell it as a completely different last name which my name sounds a bit like, phonetically, but only has two letters in common with!

For years, my doctor wrote out prescriptions to the wrong person. Luckily, the pharmacist never called me out on it!

EDIT: I must say that I am a bit sympathetic to people who make this mistake, though. I’m struggling with my guest list. For example, let’s say your friend is called Katie. But wait! Is it spelled Katie, or Katy? You’ve never seen it written down before. OK, so you’ll just use her full name. But is her full name Catherine, Katherine, Kathlyn, Catriona, Katrina, or what? Katie could be short for any number of things and unless you can sneakily check their facebook then you can have real issues!

Post # 64
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Sugar bee

My married name is a very common one in our area but it is spelled differently (extra letter) than normal. I have to correct people all the time, even relatives who should know better by now. Drives me nuts.

Post # 65
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My name is VERY common but there are two ways to spell it (Sarah or Sara). I have learned to roll with whichever way people spell it. As long as they get the general jist of it, I’m fine. Although my boss for 2 years called me Saris the entire time I worked for him in every email… people were really confused as to who Saris was as my name is clearly spelt on my emaiaddresses.

Post # 67
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@vorpalette: Facebook can be dangerous! Addressing our invitations, I couldn’t remember the spelling for FSIL’s girlfriend. I asked my Fiance for it and he put it into our spreed sheet, using Facebook. Well, turns out she only goes by part of her last name – so Gris instead of GrisXXX. Now, just “gris” means PIG in Swedish, so I came to that envelope and just went “No. No… this must be wrong“. Forced Fiance to double check and then we got it right.

It wouldn’t have been the end of the world had it been wrong, but when you’ve put so much effort into the invitations it would have been annoying to fail at such a simple but important component!

Post # 68
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@eocenia:  LOL That would have been weird. I’ve been trying to get FI’s other cousin’s address (since our spreadsheet managed to delete it??) from her and hoping that she responds soon with her husband’s correct name. He’s from Uganda and has three names that he goes by on Facebook, but everyone calls him by the third name. I cannot, for the life of me, remember how she had his name when she gave us their address last time. It took messages from both my Fiance and I and weeks to get her address last time and it’s been a while this time, too (but she has no problems updating her status and posting pictures). Argh.

Post # 69
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have an easy name, so it can bother me when people (especially people I am close with) spell it incorrectly, however, I am used to it. Names are a source of pride. It’s usually the first thing you learn to spell, read and write as a child, so I can understand why people get offended when it’s spelled incorrectly. 

One of my bridesmaid’s spells my name wrong all the time (We’ve been friends for 7+ years). It was wrong when she invited me to her shower, to her wedding, on her thank you card (I reminded her each time that it was incorrect). It’s also incorrect when she emails me (I also remind her each time I get an email from her). When I sent out my invites I did check facebook to ensure I had the spellings correct, and if the last name wasn’t present, I emailed people or called to ensure I had the correct spelling. The only mistake I think I made was assuming that newly married couples would have the same last name. 

Post # 70
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@lanalnoco:  oh lol

 

Post # 71
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I had 400 guests on my list, so a few minor misspellings were inevitable.  I appologized when I noticed, but I wasn’t going to feel bad about it for very long.

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I get Meghan or Meagan a lot instead of Megan.  I don’t really care, but would probably think “well I’m on their FB… didn’t they check?” but don’t think I’d really care at all.

Post # 73
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MrsRugbee:  I would not be attending. That’s blatantly disrespectful and completely idiotic. We received an invite to a wedding from an old friend of my FIs, my name was butchered and I am Facebook friends with the person..

I was also invited to the shower, for his bride, whom I’ve never met.. With my name also spelled wrong. They certainly didn’t forget all of the registry information though.

There’s no excuse. If you’re unsure, confirm. If a name is misspelled in any other situations its not a huge deal, but on a wedding invite.. pay attention to detail. Its not difficult.

Post # 74
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The last wedding we attended the invite was addressed correctly, but our escort card was wrong. My name had a different, more common spelling and my husband’s extra capitalized letter was lower cased. 

Post # 75
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398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My very common name, sometimes, dont know why, gets an H in the middle of it…that irritates me!

Post # 76
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

My name is constantly misspelled. It’s not a super common name, but if you add an A in there it becomes a common name. So I constantly get called the other name and by now I just go with it. Nobody close to me says or spells it wrong though. 

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