(Closed) no exs rule…found out a BM previously dated FI

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Keep her and just be the one who has class : (31 votes)
    20 %
    Give her the boot : (57 votes)
    38 %
    make FH give her the boot : (64 votes)
    42 %
  • Post # 3
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    3167 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    kick the bitch out. she shouldn’t be talking about that kind of stuff with you at all. you only met her once, so i don’t think it was probably the best idea to have her standing up for YOU in the first place.

    Post # 5
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wait. Your Fiance is best friends with a girl he used to date and f*ck?

    Nvm …saw your latest post.

    Did she only bring this to light 33 days before your wedding?  And your Fiance has never said anything to you up until this point either?

    Post # 6
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    113 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Leave her out!  Why would you even ask someone who you had only met one time before anyways? 

    Post # 7
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    1843 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I get that you’re upset but what I don’t understand is how/why your Fiance wouldn’t have said something to you about this?  If you sat down and discussed “no exes,” why would he think it was okay to have this random girl that he used to screw stand up as one of your BMs?

    Post # 8
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    3167 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @future.mrs.campfield: then you should. you’re not obligated to have her in your bridal party, you’re not even friends. you have that rule, so put it to use! just because she’s a girl friend of his doesn’t mean she belongs on your side. your side of the bridal party should be the women who are closest to and most supportive of you, not some random chick who banged and left your FH.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Say what? Why is she on your side anyway? If she’s FI’s best friend, she should be on his side.  We’re talking about pictures and memories that will last more than a lifetime… it’s a little late in the game, but I’d remove her from your side at the very least.  I’d probably downgrade her to ‘guest’ with this new info as well.

    Post # 10
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    843 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @milesbella:That’s what confuses me also.  You said you set up a “no-exes” rule.  You then asked this girl to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man and he said nothing?  That seems strange.  Even if he had mentioned it before, I’m suprised he didn’t say something!

    I would probably kick her out if you have a strict no-exes rule, unfortunately.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Kick her out for being disrespectful of your upcoming marriage.  She should not be talking about her past with him while she helps you plan the day you start your future with him. Why does she even rub this in your face, if not just to be obnoxious? Totally inappropriate.

    Post # 12
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    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    You are almost sure “I told me about it?!” What? So you’re pissed that you found out all the nasty details, from who exactly?

    And why are you not mad at Fiance again?

    Post # 13
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    yea, she would be out. Plus i would have a problem with Fiance for not telling me about it.

    Post # 14
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    122 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Why didn’t your Fiance mention this to you when you made this “no exs rule”!?

    Scratch that, how did he fail to mention to you that he used to bump uglies with one of his close friends he still hangs out with until now!?

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @jenewitt: I agree!!

     

    more importantly why did your fiance not tell you?? I think thats a bigger issue then having someone in your party whos history you dont like.

    Post # 16
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    3142 posts
    Sugar bee

    *bangs head on desk*

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