No Extended Family, but a handful of friends?

posted 5 days ago in Guests
Post # 2
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5288 posts
Bee Keeper

If you are close with them, then yes I’d be disappointed. 

Do the extended fam live far away? There’s a chance that only the ones youre close with will actually come. I also only invited the cousins I’m close with, which are the ones on my moms side. I didn’t invite anyone from my dad side, so that helped shave down our numbers lol. 

Post # 3
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1307 posts
Bumble bee

Knowing personally how guest lists can get out of control, I would not be upset about it.  

 

Post # 5
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

sboom :  This may just be me but I wouldn’t be offended about not being invited to a cousin’s wedding (but if a close friend did not invite me, then I would definitely be offended unless it was family only).

Post # 6
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Yes, I would.  That doesn’t mean you (or they) should change their plans.  

Post # 7
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5288 posts
Bee Keeper

sboom :  Ah makes sense. I mean, you have to make cuts somewhere. I just know for me, as an only child, my 2 cousins were basically my siblings growing up. So I definitely made sure to include them. But thats 2 (+SOs), not as many as it sounds like you have! 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

We kept it simple. Kid free, invited family/friends closest to us and their spouses, partners or dates. 50 ppl max. There was no logical reason for us to try and invite people we hadn’t seen in years, didn’t talk to on a regular basis or worse didn’t even like simply bc they were a blood relative. Nope and etiquette be damned. 🤷‍♀️ We owned our choice and had no problem facing any consequences. There were none, or at least none we heard about directly.

As an adult I understand weddings are expensive, cuts have to be made and would never take lack of an invite personally.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

That is exactly the wedding we had. Siblings, their spouses, any of their kids, my parents, his parents, and his grandma, plus 5 couple friends.

If folks were offended, I didn’t hear it. I just said we wanted a small, intimate wedding.

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