(Closed) No extra guests!!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think your FI’s idea gets the idea across well, while still being polite.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I know it is tough to finance a wedding and to recieve repeated calls about plus ones but personally if I received an invite to a friends wedding without an invite to my partner I probably wouldn’t go. Your guests are probbaly a bit confused as to why their partners haven’t been invited.

If I read the comment that your Fiance suggested on a website I would probably be even more offended. I would just take or make the calls to address each guest that asks.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have no problem with reading that on the website, but I do think there’s no problem telling people over the phone. Just be firm. It’s seriously rude for them to ask in the first place, but that doesn’t mean be rude back – just say what you put on the website. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

As long as you’ve invited “social units,” (married, engaged, living together), you’re fine.  If someone gets upset because you didn’t invite the person they’re just dating, screw ’em.  If they want to be treated as a social unit, they need to become one.  

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@BoiledPNut:  I understand that I do. I guess what I don’t understand about posts like this is why is a guest whose partner you don’t know invited to the wedding. To me that means that they aren’t close to the B&G and are not invloved in each others lives.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@strawbabies:  I would be careful with comparing living together v. dating. MY SO and I have dated for well over 5 years and do not live together. I would be offended and pissed off if I saw someone that had been dating for all of 6 months but were living together invited, but because I chose not to live with my SO before marriage. mine was not. I would consider people dating a long time more of a unit than someone dating a shorter time but living together.

OP, I think the statement your Fiance made on your website would be sufficient. But be prepared not everyone looks at it, so you may have to make calls to misinformed guests. You may also end up with people not coming because their SO was not invited. Can’t please everyone, right? lol

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

I wouldn’t be offended if I saw that on your website.  I hear you – our venue just plain can’t hold any extra people – we’re pushing it as it is!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@j_jaye:  unless it’s family.  I know my cousins pretty well, but they don’t bring their gfs/bfs around all that much to family functions, so i don’t really “know” them them.  i “know of” them but that’s it

 

Post # 15
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BoiledPNut:  Its rude to invite one half of a couple to a wedding. People can be in serious relationships and not live w their SO. Its not your place to judge the seriousness of someone else’s relationship. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think the website thing is fine…people need to understand that this is a wedding and people have a reason for not wanting everyone and their brother in attendance!

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