Post # 1
Ok here is the situation.
I have a father who has been in my life all my life. Him and my mom have been married 30 years. He is a pastor with strick beliefs and he does not believe in dancing or listening to any other type of music beisdes gospel (him and my mom both). I am having a dj and I have asked the dj to take any curse words out of the songs I play out of respect for my parents.
Now my Fiance is dancing with his mom and I want ideas on what can I do for my dance since I cant have a father daughter dance…..
Thanks for reading and responding
Post # 3
Your dad said he is agains the father daughter dance? If that is the case, just skip it.
Post # 4
maybe dance with your FIL? or skip it
Post # 5
@IrvingButterfly: Skip it and let him regret it later. I’m sorry but I can’t see someone who would be against dancing with their baby girl because it’s “bad.”
Go ahead and mod it for snark. I won’t mind.
Post # 6
I don’t agree with your dad about dancing being sinful, but I think you are a good daughter to accept him and his beliefs and try to arrange things so he’s not offended.
Since your Fiance and his mom are going to dance, would it work for you to sit down with or stand with your dad during that part? Could you ask him (and maybe your mom, too) to plan to walk over to the dance floor when it’s time for the special dances…and then you just go and stand with him and your mom and maybe just give them a big hug?
I think if I were at a wedding and saw that, I would assume that the daddy either hated to dance or didn’t approve of dancing…but that he wanted to be sure everyone knew he loved his daughter and approved of her getting married. If he could stand there and the two of you share a special moment while Fiance and his mom dance I think it would have the same symbolism as having a father/daughter dance. Because that’s really what the dance is about, isn’t it? One last goodbye from a proud daddy as he turns his little girl over to her new guy. 🙂
Post # 7
I’m taking out the father/daughter dance and the mother/son dance. My dad and I have never danced together and I didn’t want the stress of coming up with a song and practicing with him. My fiance hates to dance, and he would hate to have to dance in front of people with his mom. Also, his mom is overweight and very shy, neither one of them want to do their dance. So we’re taking out both of those dances. And I think it’s totally fine. He and I will do our first dance and then get up everybody up to party. I honestly don’t think taking the dances out will matter.