(Closed) No Father of the Bride…Questions

posted 13 years ago in Family
Post # 27
1 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

My mother is deceased and my father is in prison.  I have hated the idea of a wedding for so long because I don’t have anyone to walk me down the isle or no one to answer we do when the preacher asks “who gives this woman.” 

Something has been laid upon my heart recently as I am helping my best friend plan her wedding.  My mother’s first cousin, whom my mother asked when I was a young child to please watch over me when she was gone (she felt she would die an early age as her mother died early too – side note – ironic that they both died at 48, my mother’s mother died in my mothers arms in the kitchen and my mother died in my arms in my front yard).  This first cousin of hers (female) has always been a huge part of my Christian life – she is the woman who lead me to Christ, prayed with me when I accepted Him, and has been one of my biggest cheerleaders besides my mother.  Even for my senior page in the yearbook – she and my mother shared a page and both wrote something from their hearts.

How weird would it be for her to walk me down the isle and take me to light a candle on a table with my mother’s picture on it before I stand in front of my groom-to-be?  Also, if anyone else has any other suggestions of a meaningful way to incorporate remembering my mother and also using my second cousin (she is in her 60s) as a major part of my wedding. 

Thanks to everyone who takes time to comment.  I enjoyed reading other posts about people who were in similar situations with deceased parents.  My heart goes out to you as I know you pain.  I have been in several weddings and the hardest part is for me to see girls with their mothers on their wedding days…  Knowing I will never get that chance.  My mother was my one of my best friends and also a best friend to my best friend – jist is – she was awesome! 

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