Post # 1
Okay-lets face it-no one is going to keep a bottle of bubbles or a love scrolls for years to come-so why get them? we pay per head for the wedding and the wine is expensive
is it tacky for me not to have wedding favors?
im getting my bridal party gifts as well as the groomsmen
help me out here!!! i got four months to go
Post # 3
In my opinion, no, it’s not cheap at all. And honestly, a lot of people won’t even notice. If you feel like it’s a chore or burden to give them out, then no, don’t do it and don’t let the wedding industry make you feel guilty about it. The only favors I really appreciated were edible. But a few bites of sweets isn’t worth it if you don’t have the time or money to worry about them.
Post # 4
Honestly, I feel the same about favors. But I know lots of people (the majority ?) are doing them so I’ll just leave it at that. We have been living in Japan for three years so we are planning on bringing cool Japanese treats for favors. If we didn’t have that we wouldn’t do favors. I don’t think it’s “tacky” or anything, I mean we are paying for people’s dinners and drinks and that is definitely not cheap! What would a couple of Jordan almonds in a box add to that?
Perhaps it’s just my hordless tendencies that cause me to have this view. Or maybe I’m just too pessimistic. I guess really it’s the thought that counts. But I couldn’t care less about favors and that’s not what I look forward to or expect at a wedding.
Post # 5
goodness! thank you bees!!!
i thought that i should feel guilt. im so thankful i found this site!
Post # 6
Favors were not even on our list, never mind a priority. The week of the wedding I decided to buy little vellum envelopes at Michael’s Crafts along with a sticker with “B” for our last name, a couple pretty stamps which I had previously as gifts and bought a bag of wildflower seed from Home Depot – made little seed packets with a quote about love or flowers or something and instructions on how to plant them and left them on the guest book table. Some people took them, some didn’t – I was glad I did them (actually enlisted my 7 year old nephew and 6 year old niece to do them!) and it was stress free. I don’t think anyone would ever notice if there were no favors!
Post # 7
Skipping favors makes you look smart. It isn’t cheap or inappropriate to skip them, especially since so many get left behind or tossed in the trash and that money can go to things that guests actually notice and appreciate instead.
Post # 8
Although that being said, I dig favors that really represent or are meaningful to the couple- I find those charming and delightful! Not like, coasters with the couples face or anything. Like, a CD of their favorite songs or a recipe they often make together. Or useful things! But I digress. My point is if the favors are just there to BE there, with no meaning or thought behind them, they aren’t really necessary.
Post # 9
I think only do it if you find something you really like. Once in a great while there’s a favor like hey that was a good idea. But almost always it’s just guilt about throwing away something I’m never going to use. Recently it seems like favors are falling out of favor and even at some decently fancy weddings there’s been no favors.
Post # 10
I honestly have no strong feelings about favors as a bride OR as a guest. I think guests can certainly live without them, though I think I may end up doing something small because I feel like I should.
Post # 11
Honestly, I wouldn’t miss favours if they weren’t there. Mostly they’re stuff I would leave or just toss out as soon as I got home. I wouldn’t feel bad about saving yourself a few bucks because people that do care about souvenirs will save a program or your invitation or something else that is meaningful to them.
I was on the fence about doing them myself, but I had a few dollars left in my budget and my wedding was quite small, so I thought what the heck. I ended up putting heart-shaped truffles in a little box for favours, because the only favours I personally like are the edible ones. They were simple and fairly inexpensive, but they all got eaten! The cute thing was that I had tied up the boxes with coloured ribbons and little heart charms (something I had already bought for the invitations when I made them, and then changed my mind about using), and all the kids made themselves little necklaces out of them. In fact, they trawled through the room after lunch and collected all the spare ribbons/charms and competed to see how many necklaces they could get!
Post # 12
No one (who is not employed by the Wedding Industry) will not think you are cheap at all. They are always the first thing to get cut if you are on any type of budget and most people don’t care about them either. Skip the favors since no one will miss them, and they always get left behind or tossed even when edible (yes I have seen this done re: edible favors) and either save the money for everyday needs or put it toward things guests will actually notice and appreciate such as food/beverages/entertainment or put it toward professional photography.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2010 - Family Ranch outside Glenrock, WY
Your favors should be meaningful to both of you, and something that’s not going to get tossed in the trash (hopefully haha). If you can’t come up with something that you just HAVE to do, then don’t worry about it. Chances are nobody will even notice and you’ll save some moolah 🙂
Post # 14
I think people feel that they HAVE to give favors to show their guests they appreciate that friends and family have spent the day celebrating with them. That said, we are having the reception venue place a heart felt thank you note on each of the place settings for our guests instead of a bottle of bubbles or salt & pepper shakers…
Post # 15
i am feeling better and better thanks to the weddingbee. i really don’t want to favors as well. i can’t think of anything to do. i want to do the candy buffet but i have heard good and bad things about this. i hate those jordan almonds! also, we aren’t asking for gifts. we don’t have a registry. we have everything want in our house. they will get a thank you speech instead.
Post # 16
I was the same way, I mean who keeps favors? I certainly don’t. The I came across the American Meadows website and found they had “Wildflowers from Our Wedding” seed packets for about 50 cents apiece. Actually I orderd 200 and that made them 35 cents apiece. The reverse of each packet includes the heading “Wildflowers from our Wedding”, and the following copy: “It makes us so happy to have you with us to celebrate our love. We hope you’ll take this small souvenir of our ceremony and plant the wildflower seeds inside. As they grow and bloom, we hope you’ll remember us and this happy day.” So I made a cute basket and put the seed packets in there with a cute little sign for guests to help themselves. Although I did not pay attention to it during our reception, I was surprised to see all but three packets were taken. I was even more surprised to hear from folks this year that they actually planted the seeds and are enjoying the flowers! Here’s the link if you are interested. http://www.americanmeadows.com/FlowerSeedPackets/SpecialOccasionMiniPackets/WildflowersfromourWeddingPackets.aspx