(Closed) No feeling of 'the one' even after alterations and accessories

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Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I didn’t have a “this is the one” moment with my dress either, but I do love my dress! I think there’s a lot of pressure put on brides for everything to be perfect, especially when it comes to the dress. If you love the dress and it makes you feel beautiful then that’s all that matters! I’m sure you’ll start to feel differently as the wedding day gets closer.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Expectations vs reality. There is an espectation, in part thanks to Say Yes to the Dress and other wedding shows that you’ll suddenly find the dress then cry over it. I actually said to my consultant don’t expect me to cry. At the end of the day while we spend all this money and time finding the dress, its something you’ll only wear for a few hours. I would love to hear how other bees justify the cost… Still trying to justify the ridiculous amount I spent on my own dress!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I couldn’t have justified the cost. Over $1000 for a dress that I’ll wear all of a few hours and likely need to spend even more for alterations? Nope. But nothing I tried on or saw in any bridal store excited me, I pretty much hated everything and after awhile they started to blur together. 😝 Maybe if I had some OMG this is it moment I would have been willing to spend more. Even when I put on an off the rack dress I love it wasn’t some magical, teary eyed moment. It was more like this dress makes me feel pretty, looks decent on my frame, is different enough to suit my personality and fits the casual wedding we’ve planned. In general YES traditional dresses are ridiculously overpriced. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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chachamaru :  The PP 
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mrscsoontobee :  is correct. There is expectation and reality. In real life, some of us don’t cry when selecting our dress. If you tried on (let’s say) 20 dresses, it may be harder to know “your” dress because you have seen and tried on so many beautiful gowns. 

I am not sure if that is the case with you, nonetheless, I am sure you look beautiful! 

Also, I lost my “wow” factor of my dress because I was so tired of the fittings. However, when I picked it up, I did not look at it until I shipped it to my hometown (where we got married) and when I looked at it that final time, I was in love with it all over again. That may work for you too! 

I see you’re getting married in October, congrats!!!  It’ll be here before you know it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Media has hyped picking out your wedding dress. You don’t need to feel that overwhelming sense of joy. Those fireworks that shoot off in your head and you feel like you’re about to piss yourself from joy.

Pick a dress you like. Worry less about that feeling.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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chachamaru :  I’m really into dresses – fashion in general. I’ll get feelings of giddiness when I really love a dress and I look great in it. Or “oooooh” O.O. But crying? No. I’m just not a gusher. There’s nothing wrong with that! I think everyone was expecting me to have this moment, but I knew from past experiences with going shopping with friends that that just isn’t me. And that’s ok! Do you feel beautiful in your dress? Can you envision getting married in it? Do you think it is beautiful?

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

I didnt really feel like ‘oh my god this is it’ until I was fuly dressed on the day and waiting to go downstairs  to get married! I liked my dress and knew it was the best one out of all the ones I tried, but it didn’t feel real until I stepped into it on the day and saw myself with my bouquet

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I thought my dress was pretty and nice, but that’s all. The idea that a piece of clothing will transport you to magical rainbow land just isn’t reasonable for me. BUT on the day I loved my dress and it felt perfect! Something about being there getting ready with everyone, with the bouquets and hair and makeup and bridesmaids really did elevate it. I felt beautiful. Try not to stress, I’m sure you will feel beautiful too. It really does feel different on your wedding day, which I never would have believed. And even if it doesn’t, it’ll still be a lovely dress! As for cost, yes they are so overpriced! I mean most $2000+ dresses are still made of polyester! Bit ridiculous. But hey, it is what it is and what’s done is done. The cost doesn’t matter now so forget about it. In the big scheme of things it’s ok, and you’re never going to do this again (well that’s the idea lol)

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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chachamaru :  

“I think most bees had their parents pay for the dress”  .. Really? Not the impression I have,  after quite a long  time visiting here .
 

But be that as it may,. I think that on  the day  all will be very well  and  your expensive dress will be done justice!

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