Post # 1
I’ve been here long enough to know that sometimes it just isn’t going to happen, the crying bit over the dress. But I’m a dress person, I love love love dresses and I’ve had episodes of “wow this is so pretty” on many dresses.
I’ve seen really fancy, grand wedding dresses and was awestruck by them (and subsequently wondered how to get to the bathroom in them) and I’ve also loved many styles, bling, no bling, etc. But I’ve never gotten it’s “the ONE” feeling, I’ve always felt like I could wear this, or that, or the one over there. They’re all very pretty!
I’ve gone ahead and chose a dress that is as comfortable as possible and also pretty, I had some dress regret but I thought I would feel much better after alterations when it did fit, and I did feel better, I really like it, it’s comfortable but it still doesn’t register that it’s a wedding dress. THE wedding dress. MY wedding dress. The alterations lady put a veil, necklace and gloves on me and gave me some fake flowers and I thought everything looks quite well together but I still don’t feel like it’s as perfect as it’s supposed to be.
It’s not really necessary to feel that way, but I’m having a hard time justifying the cost of the dress lol. It was $3800 before alterations. Anyone feel that wedding dresses are pretty overpriced? I guess I wish I have the whole “this is the one” so I can actually be happy with the price I paid for haha.
Post # 2
I didn’t have a “this is the one” moment with my dress either, but I do love my dress! I think there’s a lot of pressure put on brides for everything to be perfect, especially when it comes to the dress. If you love the dress and it makes you feel beautiful then that’s all that matters! I’m sure you’ll start to feel differently as the wedding day gets closer.
Post # 3
Expectations vs reality. There is an espectation, in part thanks to Say Yes to the Dress and other wedding shows that you’ll suddenly find the dress then cry over it. I actually said to my consultant don’t expect me to cry. At the end of the day while we spend all this money and time finding the dress, its something you’ll only wear for a few hours. I would love to hear how other bees justify the cost… Still trying to justify the ridiculous amount I spent on my own dress!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
I couldn’t have justified the cost. Over $1000 for a dress that I’ll wear all of a few hours and likely need to spend even more for alterations? Nope. But nothing I tried on or saw in any bridal store excited me, I pretty much hated everything and after awhile they started to blur together. 😝 Maybe if I had some OMG this is it moment I would have been willing to spend more. Even when I put on an off the rack dress I love it wasn’t some magical, teary eyed moment. It was more like this dress makes me feel pretty, looks decent on my frame, is different enough to suit my personality and fits the casual wedding we’ve planned. In general YES traditional dresses are ridiculously overpriced.
Post # 5
The PP mrscsoontobee :
is correct. There is expectation and reality. In real life, some of us don’t cry when selecting our dress. If you tried on (let’s say) 20 dresses, it may be harder to know “your” dress because you have seen and tried on so many beautiful gowns.
I am not sure if that is the case with you, nonetheless, I am sure you look beautiful!
Also, I lost my “wow” factor of my dress because I was so tired of the fittings. However, when I picked it up, I did not look at it until I shipped it to my hometown (where we got married) and when I looked at it that final time, I was in love with it all over again. That may work for you too!
I see you’re getting married in October, congrats!!! It’ll be here before you know it.
Post # 6
Media has hyped picking out your wedding dress. You don’t need to feel that overwhelming sense of joy. Those fireworks that shoot off in your head and you feel like you’re about to piss yourself from joy.
Pick a dress you like. Worry less about that feeling.
Post # 7
I’m really into dresses – fashion in general. I’ll get feelings of giddiness when I really love a dress and I look great in it. Or “oooooh” O.O. But crying? No. I’m just not a gusher. There’s nothing wrong with that! I think everyone was expecting me to have this moment, but I knew from past experiences with going shopping with friends that that just isn’t me. And that’s ok! Do you feel beautiful in your dress? Can you envision getting married in it? Do you think it is beautiful?
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
I didnt really feel like ‘oh my god this is it’ until I was fuly dressed on the day and waiting to go downstairs to get married! I liked my dress and knew it was the best one out of all the ones I tried, but it didn’t feel real until I stepped into it on the day and saw myself with my bouquet
Post # 9
Yeah I do love it, but it didn’t make me feel as special as I thought I would. I’m pretty sure that I won’t be worrying about the dress when the day comes…I’ll just wear it and get on with it…but it’s all this waiting that makes me nervous about my decisions haha.
I know! I think most bees had their parents pay for the dress so the cost didn’t register that much, but I’m paying for mine so I’m still kind of shocked at the cost and trying to tell myself “it’s the only day in my life” over “it’s just one day”.
Thank you, you may be right. I’ve actually tried ~10 but I’ve seen/researched so
many wedding dresses over the past year that my brain is probably saturated…and none of them appear that unique anymore when there are so many styles. All of them averaged out and just look pretty.
I went to so many stores, and I even thought that perhaps higher end dresses (like over $6k) may have better fabric that will somehow magically fit me and make me burst into tears…but that didn’t happen either.
You’re right. I guess I just cannot justify the cost – without the hype and tears, they’re just white dresses with lace and beads, most of them are made in China and probably aren’t even hand-sewn for the most parts 🙁
Thank you! Yes I love fashion too and actually had better reactions to other dresses…white dress after white dress that all look rather alike just bore me out I suspect. I’m also not the type to cry but I did expect to feel kind of special I guess? Haha. It fitted me so I think I look fine in it. I guess I’m just not into strapless…and that’s what most dresses are.
True, I think I may get more emotional on the day itself when things feel more real. Right now it’s just a very expensive white dress that I have to get fitted for so I guess the emotional part is still lacking!
Post # 10
I thought my dress was pretty and nice, but that’s all. The idea that a piece of clothing will transport you to magical rainbow land just isn’t reasonable for me. BUT on the day I loved my dress and it felt perfect! Something about being there getting ready with everyone, with the bouquets and hair and makeup and bridesmaids really did elevate it. I felt beautiful. Try not to stress, I’m sure you will feel beautiful too. It really does feel different on your wedding day, which I never would have believed. And even if it doesn’t, it’ll still be a lovely dress! As for cost, yes they are so overpriced! I mean most $2000+ dresses are still made of polyester! Bit ridiculous. But hey, it is what it is and what’s done is done. The cost doesn’t matter now so forget about it. In the big scheme of things it’s ok, and you’re never going to do this again (well that’s the idea lol)
Post # 11
Thank you for the advice, that makes me feel better :)) I do hope I’ll feel more like a bride on the day!
Post # 12
“I think most bees had their parents pay for the dress” .. Really? Not the impression I have, after quite a long time visiting here .
But be that as it may,. I think that on the day all will be very well and your expensive dress will be done justice!