(Closed) No first dance? Share your experiences

posted 4 years ago in Music
Post # 10
11 posts
  • Wedding: April 2016

Bumping to say exactly the same thing … how have people moved the party from dinner to dancing without a first dance?

Post # 11
26 posts
  • Wedding: July 2016


As terrible as it rounds I intend to avoid it if I can 

Post # 12
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

groomzungu:  I considered not doing one (FI vetoed me, so we are now), and my plan was to do the cake cutting to transition. That gets people up out of their seats, and then you and your new husband can move to the dance floor afterward with an announcement from the MC inviting everyone go join you. Probably also tip off your parents and the bridal party to get out there so that people can clearly see it’s not a first dance for just the two of you.

Post # 13
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I’m not doing one! I’m one of those weird people that honestly doesn’t LIKE to dance. I’ve been to concerts where my friends believe I’m not having a good time, but no, I just don’t feel like moving my body when I’m happy lol I’m planning a cake cutting to fill that time xD 

Post # 14
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Part of me wants to say no to the first dance because we CANNOT both find a song we like… And if we do it’s either in choreographed dance territory or not wedding appropriate… We’re stubborn and Fiance has been talking about how he can’t wait for the first dance for years though so I don’t think there’s a way he’d consider scrapping it now lol. We’re probably going to end up giving up and putting on something dumb and cliché at this point. 

Definitely following this thread for interest though. 

Post # 15
2341 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I didn’t do one either time around, and my first was a fairly large traditional wedding. 

I cant remember it being an issue. 

Post # 16
4036 posts
Honey bee

I just posed for a photo pretending to dance with my husband and father, in turn. We did no first dances. I don’t even remember dancing at all, although we had a live band.

I was not a traditionalist (married late 1970s), to say the least.

Post # 17
51 posts
Worker bee

My Fiance “thinks” we aren’t doing one but we are. 

Do the cake cutting then hit the music and just let it be. If no one is big dancers then have the music a little quieter. Maybe as the party progresses and the alcohol flows (if any) then some will want to dance and they can. Let them have requests to the DJ. 

At least do the chicken dance or electric slide those are good ice breakers lol

Post # 18
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I’m on the fence about this. I enjoy dancing, but I’m not all that great at it, and I hate people watching me (standing in front of people for the ceremony will be bad enough). Also, I really really do not want to do the father/daughter dance. I love my dad to death. BUT he can’t dance to save his life. In fact, dancing with him is literally painful (not like he’s just bad so its painful to watch, but it actually hurts… he does some weird skip thing, and you end up carrying his weight and yours (hard to explain) and its just awkward and painful. It’s not just me… my mom and sister say the same thing. Also, my FI’s mom has health problems and I’m not sure to the full extent of them and if she’s even able to, which in a way helps out so that way its not one side or the other. I wouldn’t hate having a first dance, but I’m not keen on it either. 

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