(Closed) No flip flops allowed!

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Ummm… they can’t wear flip flops after the wedding/pics?

Sorry, but that’s super controlling.

Post # 4
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

if they are wearing floor length dresses then why does it matter after the pictures and stuff? I weigh over 220 lbs and I can’t wear heels for 8 hours when I’m spending a large majority of that moving around and dancing. 

That’s just my 2 cents though

Post # 5
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can’t wear heels all night, but I would bring a pair of flats to change into, not flip flops.

Post # 7
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miltie:  So just because you don’t like flip flops doesn’t mean you can dictate what another person wears.  That is a tad controlling don’t you think?

Post # 9
1278 posts
Bumble bee

I can’t wear heals that long, I would have some issues with pain!  

How about as part of their Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts you got them each a set of ballet/flats.  That way they have something to wear that is comfortable but not flip-flops.

Post # 10
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Miltie:  Were you looking for opinions, or validation for a decision you’ve already made? Because I’ve never heard of dictating what someone wears after the wedding ceremony and pictures are over with within reason (aka don’t show up in a bikini or a white prom dress). If you’re looking for people to back up your decision just say so.

Post # 11
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

How about changing into sneakers that go with your wedding colors? I wore nice heels to my friends wedding and the dress that we wore was short and black. Her wedding colors were purple, red, and black. So I bought brand new converse all-stars and was comfortable all night but still fit in with the wedding themed colors. My bride loved it and regrets she didn’t think to do the same.


Post # 13
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Miltie:  As long as, in telling them to pick a heel they can tolerate, you include ballet flats as an option… If you told me to pick a heel I can tolerate – I’d pick a heel of 2-3″… that’s not a heel I can tolerate for several hours, but it’s the only “heel” height that I can tolerate… I would feel like I was not allowed to wear flats if you said that.  So as long as you include flats as an option… Or, like a PP said, gift them with some flats (maybe the kind that can roll up in their purse?)

Post # 14
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have mixed feelings on flip flops. Will I let my bridesmaids wear them at my wedding? No..

At least not generic plastic thong sandals. 

I have a photographer for the entire day, who will be taking pictures non stop.

But I don’t expect my bridal party to wear heels all day either- by any means. I have one Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. Thankfully both of their dresses are long anyways, as well.

My happy medium is shoes like these:


FLAT, but not plastic sandals.

I feel like that’s perfectly reasonable 🙂



Post # 16
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you’re telling them to pick a *heel* they can tolerate all night, yes, that’s controlling and it’s a pretty difficult request for some people to abide.  I wear 5 inchers most days, but my Maid/Matron of Honor is 5’10, doesn’t like heels, and is uncomfortable in them after about an hour.  I’d be willing to bet more women are like her than like me.

If you’re telling them to pick a *shoe* they can tolerate all night, I think it’s fine for you to ask them to pick something they can stay in all night.  You need to give them the option of flats all night if you’re going to ask them to stay in them all night.

Alternatively, could you get them each a pair of those Dr. Scholl’s flats-in-a-bag as Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts?  I’m normally opposed to Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts that are for the wedding, but if you’re going to be picky about shoes, better to give them something than make them go out and get it on their own…

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