(Closed) no flower girl , ok or not ?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Bee
6473 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia

We’re not having flower girls, because we’re keeping the wedding kid-free for numbers. Don’t choose one just because you ‘have’ to – go with your gut instinct! 🙂

Post # 4
Member
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If you don’t have a child that you realllllly want to be it, then IMO, why bother? The only reason I’m going to have one is because my youngest sister will only be 7 and she will LOVE doing it. And she’s my sister, so that was pretty obvious.

Also – if you want to use your friend’s kid and not your cousin’s – why does it matter if they get all “we don’t know her” about it? I mean, that’s weird. It’s not like it’s your siblings’ kid or immediate family.

Post # 5
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7770 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is totally okay.

Post # 6
Member
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I had a perfectly well behaved, very adorable, almost 4 year old niece, and we still scrapped the flower girl.  I don’t think it’s an issue.

Post # 7
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1335 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I believe that if you want a flower girl or don’t want one, it should be yours and your FI’s decision alone because it’s your wedding.

So if you want to have your best man’s daughter be your flower girl, I totally think you should. It’s not right for your family to make you feel guilty about your decisions. But if you want to appease them, maybe you could have both of them be flower girls together. On the other hand, if you don’t really want a flower girl, then don’t even worry about it. Personally, I don’t think I am going to have one (for lack of adorable flower girl-aged children in our lives), and I think our wedding will be just fine without one 🙂

Post # 8
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46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Totally your decision. The only thing you MUST HAVE are an officiant and  two witnesses.

Post # 9
Member
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My niece is our flowergirl, but she’ll be the only child at the wedding and she is 10. If it wasn’t for her, we wouldn’t have one. Don’t worry about it.

Post # 10
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7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

yup, i think if you want one because of pics or whatever and you want your best man’s kid, then you should have her! if you don’t want one at all, then don;t have one.  

Post # 11
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have 4 nieces under the age of 5. It would be impossible to choose between them without upsetting someone, and no way are we having 4 flower girls! So, we scrapped the flower girl idea altogether and no one seems to think there is anything out of the ordinary about not having one. If you want your best man’s little girl to do it I say go for it, but don’t do it just because you feel like you “have to”.

Post # 12
Member
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Totally OK. I was kind-of forced into having 2 flowergirls and a ring bearer…but I am happy that they did it now. At the time though…not so happy.

Post # 13
Member
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I say pick the BestMan’s kid.  Who really wants to look at pictuers of a sourpuss faced flower girl forever.  She’s your cousins kid, not your sisters kid. 

Post # 14
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@eli11:  Flower girls and ring bearers aren’t a requirement – we didn’t have them. 

That said, your Best Man’s daughter is hardly a stranger (is she?), but if it will cause family drama – eh, it may not be worth it.

Post # 15
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447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

It’s not a requirement to have a flower girl or ring bearer at all. My husband and I didn’t have either one at our wedding, and that was just because we didn’t want them.

Post # 16
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We went kid free as well! I wanted everyone to have a good time instead of hearing the little ones screaming and crying at 10:30pm!

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