(Closed) no flower girl , ok or not ?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

There’s no rule that says you have to include children in your wedding. We’re not having a Flower Girl. However, we are having a ring bearer and 2 ushers (my cousins 6,13,14).

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Why not have one?  I say if you want to use your best man’s kid then do so.  If you are more comfortable and closer w/that family then do so.  There is no rule saying you have to keep family in the wedding party.  I’m having a flower girl that is the daughter of a friend rather than my cousin’s daughter (b/c I’m not close to them at all).

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t have a flower girl, wasn’t weird at all! 🙂

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We aren’t having a flower girl. We are just not close to any young children and didn’t want to dig for people that we know that have cute kids just to have those pictures. The best flower girls pictures are when the bride and or groom really know the flower girl and can interact. If you were to choose someone that you don’t really know or don’t really like you may not even get those cute shots you want anyway and go through the hassel of involving part of your family more than your really want to in your big day.

We opted to keep it simple and go with none.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just another bride with no flower girl! Our situation is different than yours, we just don’t have any small girls around, *sad face*….. Honestly if you would like to have your BM’s daughter as the flower girl do it!!!

FWIW, I was a Flower Girl in a wedding where there were 2 FGs… I was happy/smiling, etc.. My cousin was grumpy/pouty in every picture. We look back on it, and laugh — the photos of my grumpy cousin are just too cute/funny.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are not having kids in the wedding.  My dog is the ring-bearer 🙂

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@eli11: Its fine…we didnt have a ring bearer or flower girl and it was okay (although we had NO kids at the wedding so it was fine).

 

I wouldnt do a ring bearer though if you arent doing a flower girl though.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

its fine you can do without

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@eli11: ahhh i dont know!! *laugh* I was thinking about that. The thing is if you have one and not the other, they will take offence ( I would assume) No Flower but a ring bearer? yeah. OR they will deffinitly take offence if you have a flower girl and its not their little girl…

Im one to do what i want and let people deal with it. (now…wasnt so much during my wedding planning) If you are strong enough i would just do the ring bearer OR bite the bullet and have their daughter as the flower girl. Who knows, maybe she will be delightful on the day of??

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Of course its OK not to have one.  If you want your friends daughter, and you aren’t close with your cousin, have your friends daughter.  Whats important is that you know her, not that her cousin knows her

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@eli11:

Ask your Best man’s daughter, its who you want!

But its OK not to have one. We won’t simply becasue no relatives or close friends have girls.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

we aren’t doing a flower girl because we dont know any young girls. The Fiance has 3 younger nephews (13, 7 and 5) and they will be the only kids at the wedding because they will be in the wedding.

Post # 31
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t have a flower girl and no one noticed or cared!

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