(Closed) NO flower girl or ring bearer…anyone else?

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 32
719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re not having kids in the wedding or at the wedding – and no, we’re not kid-haters, I promise. It just seemed easier, and it seemed kind to give the parents a chance to relax without having to be “on duty” at a party! The youngest “child” in attendance will be in highschool.

I was at a wedding once where the Round Brilliant decided he didn’t want to walk down the aisle after all, and it caused some stress for the bride. In the end it was ok, but that’s a hassle I wouldn’t want at my wedding!

Post # 33
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are having a Destination Wedding so no kids other than our son. hes 2 and will be a jr. groomsman…im going to have him walk down with the Maid/Matron of Honor…he wouldnt walk up there on his own without a groomsman dangling his bear Smile

Post # 34
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We had a ring bearer (my 4 year old nephew) and no flower girl.  My nephew ended up not even walking down the aisle, so really we didn’t have either of them!

Post # 35
20 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not having one. My mother wants my 13 year old nephew to do it…lol..ummm..NO! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 36
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

None for us!! Youngest at our wedding will be 18 ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 37
263 posts
Helper bee

In any wedding I’ve ever been to, the ring bearer didn’t actually carry the rings anyway. If you don’t have children in your life who can fit the role, or if you just don’t want them in the party anyway, they won’t be missed!

Post # 38
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t want kids in the ceremony. The best man held the rings. If it was 100% up to me, I wouldn’t have had kids at the reception either. 

Luckily, they are well-behaved. 

Post # 39
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We were going to have my baby sister be the “flower girl” (Except no flowers, instead she had a sign that said “Here comes the bride”), but she was sick the day of the wedding and couldn’t attend. The best man carried our rings. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 40
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

we are just having a flower girl, but only because she is our daughter. If we didnt have children, we would probably have neither a fg or rb.

Post # 41
1534 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

we wont have children in our wedding either. i have 6 nephews and 1 neice, and my guy has one neice and one nephew. we dont want to be unfair and pick ‘favorites’ to be in the bridal party.

Post # 42
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@juicytray:  The only children invited our my nieces (11 and 3 months) and nephew (5 ).  My 11 year old niece will be a junior bridesmaid and my nephew is going to be like a mini groomsman.  We decided not to have a flower girl because I don’t know any young girls (well I do but not that I am close to) and I dont want to just have a flower girl to have one.

Post # 43
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We aren’t having either one. There’s too many kids on FI’s side of the family and we didn’t want to have to pick between them all. We saved all the hurt feelings and nixed the idea completely. Plus, that’s one less headache I have to worry about. And FI’s sister wanted her daughter to be pulled down the aisle in a wagon by another neice. Is she crazy?!

Post # 44
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@juicytray: Neither here for me!!!  We dont really have anyone to fill the role and even if we did I have no desire to have either.  I’m not a big fan of kids, and while some are cute too much can go wrong.  They can’t or won’t stand still or they talk during the ceremony.  I saw a video of a ring bearer walking down the aisle picking his nose!!!  Like REALLY booger mining.  And everyone was like aww so cute and I am like NO.  NYET. NEIN.  NON.  Just.  No.  Our ring bearer will be our Best Man and/or tje Maid/Matron of Honor. There will be a few youngish children there (around 8 years old) who are quiet and sweet and of course I will have fun things for them to do but mostly I want the adults ie the ones who actually understand and apprecriate what is going on to be able to enjoy themselves without some random kids running around screaming.

I would love to have my weiner dog be the Round Brilliant but it’s a no-go at the venue and she would be as bad as any toddler really!!! Whining and peeing everywhere…>_<

Post # 45
18 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I just thought about it, and I realized that I’ve actually never been to a wedding that had a flower girl or ring bearer. So maybe it’s not so common anymore. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 46
49 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

We are having a ring bearer and two flower girls, but I really debated on having none. In every wedding that I have been in, the flower girls or ring bearer (sometimes both) caused a scene. They were exhausted, they were too little to care, they were scared of the crowd, etc. So, when my fiance wanted to put his nephew in the wedding, and I realized he really was a great kid, then I decided to find flower girls. I chose some that are older (3rd and 4th grade sisters) and I am hoping for the best. I babysit these girls often and they are super excited and well behaved so I think the problems that people have with wee bitty kiddos will be averted with these two. 

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