(Closed) No flower girl/ring bearer?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

haha i would suggest you NOT have an older woman throwing flowers! It’s is perfectly fine having neither! It’s your wedding. I’m not having a flower girl but am having a ring bearer, my nephew.

Post # 4
8247 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you don’t have little kids close to you to play those roles, don’t have them.  Of the weddings I’ve been to, more have not had flower girls/ring bearers than have.

Post # 5
36 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010


We are not having one, I think it is whatever you decide. I have learned in this past year that there are no rules and it should be whatever makes you guys happy. We are having an adult only wedding so that is why we are not having any.

Post # 6
590 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re not having either. Some of our friends have babies but none old enough to walk down the aisle, plus we don’t want any children at the wedding. Plenty of weddings skip the flower girl/ring bearer. Just give the rings to the MOH/BM. If you want flower petals on the aisle, have them scattered along the aisle before guests arrive and tie a ribbon between the back two chairs so guests don’t walk on the center aisle (they can get to their seats from the outer aisles).

Post # 7
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re not having a flower girl or a ring bearer. I don’t think it’s weird at all, it would be weird to find someone you’re not even close to, just to fill the role! I wouldn’t try to replace them, I would just stick with the bridesmaids and groomsmen 🙂

Post # 8
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

If you dont have anyone it will be perfectly fine to not have a ring bearer or flower girl. In my case we had too many to choose from so to avoid any conflicts we skipped it completely and just had my bridal party hold our rings, bible, etc.

Post # 9
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We aren’t having them but out of our desire not to have them.  We don’t think it is necessary.

Post # 10
319 posts
Helper bee

We are not having either. Our nephews/cousins who are all boys and 11-15 will be ushers. I don’e think that they are necessary and I did not want young children in the wedding or reception.

Post # 11
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We just decided that we do not want a ring bearer or flower girl. We had two kids in mind but its an extra cost and we really do not want one so we aren’t going to have any.

Post # 12
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If my niece weren’t around, we would not be having a flower girl.  And we don’t have a ring bearer.

Post # 13
4831 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We are probably not having them. We don’t have any family in that age range or any close friends with kids.

I was in a wedding shortly after college and they didn’t have a flower girl or ring bearer and it was just fine. The best man had the rings in a little box in his jacket pocket and pulled them out when they were needed.

Post # 14
3230 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t have either & nobody thought it was weird or looked a little off 🙂 In fact, I liked it, no risks of having a rowdy bearer or flower girl & no crying kids.

Post # 15
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

lol at an older woman throwing flowers!

I’m not having either.

Post # 16
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re not having either.  It’d be strange to try to find someone now just to fill the role if you aren’t that close.

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