(Closed) No Food at Cocktail Hour?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are hors d'oerves at a cocktail hour a necessity?
    Yes : (149 votes)
    81 %
    No : (35 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Knowing that I was on my way to dinner at the reception, I wouldn’t stop to get anything to eat on the way there. For a 1pm ceremony start time, I probably would have foregone lunch as well. Needless to say, I would probably be pretty hungry and a little cranky.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Hm.  If that’s the only price options for hors d’oeurves, yeah, I’d say skip it.  As you said, they can stop and get food between ceremony and reception if they’re hungry, and dinner is soon after.  However: 1. you might want to let people know, so if they’re hungry they don’t just wait, thinking they will get appetizers.  2. the other reason to have food is so people don’t get drunk quickly on empty stomachs… how heavy of drinkers do you have attending?

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you having a wedding website, you could slyly mention it on there–maybe a list of local cafes near the ceremony or reception location. Otherwise, word of mouth from your bridal party to the guests.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @pierce8:  They don’t have to be passed hor deouvres, but you should have some type of food at cocktail hour. I would not stop somewhere to eat so it would be at least 6-7 hours between lunch and your reception. Does your cocktail hour have alcohol? It’s not wise to have a bunch of people drinking on empty stomachs. If you just can not find a way to make it work, you should definitely let people know that there will be no food at cocktail hour, or you might even skip cocktail hour altogether.

     

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Does your venue allow you to bring in outside food? (I’m assuming not, from the sound of it).

    As far as letting people know, my instinct is just tell your parents and Maid/Matron of Honor etc and let it spread, but if you have a big wedding that might not work.

    Post # 10
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @pierce8:  I have been to weddings where no food was served during the cocktail hour. Dinner followed soon after. These had gaps between the ceremony and wedding as well, so we planned accordingly. These invitations always merely said “Cocktails x:xx pm” instead of saying “cocktail hour” or “cocktails and hors d’oeurvre”. If you don’t think people will pick up on this, then perhaps be a bit more blunt on a wedding website.  

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Cocktail hour – food = a bunch of really drunk guests.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    What I would do is try to find a completely separate venue – even if it’s just someone’s house – to host a cocktail hour right after the ceremony with apps and drinks and then have a “cocktails only hour” at 6pm.  This way, people aren’t starved, they’ve been fed a bit, and the drinking continues.  It will add cost, but I’m sure you can find something cheaper. 

    Or I would do the super bottom of the barrel, cheapest cocktail hour option possible at the venue.  Like literally just cheese plates and fruit plates and maybe a pasta station i they can throw one in or something. 

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @pierce8:  $6 a person for friggin cheese?  that’s obnoxious.

    If it’s not a lot of people, then yeah – just spread the word.  They’ll pick up a mcdouble on the way LOL jk (I totally would do that though haha)

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