Post # 47
Exactly!!! Cocktail hour=cocktails. I don’t see how that equates to food. People know what time dinner is served at since it says on the invitation. There is a large gap between the ceremony & supper so they have plenty of time to go grab a late lunch or snack before supper. People are adults and if they can’t figure out a way to keep themselves from being hungry or becoming completely obliterated because alcohol is served without food for one hour there is a problem.
And as to those who ask why not just skip cocktail hour and go straight into dinner. Cocktail hour, from all weddings I’ve went to gives guests a chance to check out the venue & socialize with other guests. I wouldn’t want that part taken away.
Post # 48
I would either find a way to incorporate it into your budget, or skip cocktail hour all together and go straight to dinner.
Serving booze to guests with no food is just a recipe for disaster.
I come from the land of huge cocktail hours, but I totally understand they are scaled back in other parts of the country. But NO food? Even fruit/cheese/crackers is fine. I understand it’s a cost but it’s pretty much a necessity.
Also it’s pretty easy for someone to eat $6 worth of cheese and fruit in an hour, I don’t think that’s an unreasonable price. Just saying.
Post # 49
I don’t think we’re have apps at our cocktail hour. It’s at an all inclusive resort so people are going to be going to a central lobby bar, there will be a small set up but I don’t think apps are included. I guess they will have to wait for dinner!
Post # 50
If you’re serving booze you should have some snacks IMO. The last wedding I went to had an open bar and verrrry few apps, and I was really feeling it by dinner. I think most everyone is going to expect to be served something foodwise.
Post # 52
@pierce8: We are not having hors d’oerves during our cocktail hour. But, we will be providing food around 10:00ish at night for people to soak up all the alcohol 🙂
Post # 53
Thanks for all the replies, ladies. Here is some info from our venue:
Cold Hors D’Oeuvres — Priced per 100 pieces
Shrimp, cocktailsauce …………………… $ 316.00
Tavern cheese (two and
one-half pounds), crackers…………. $ 63.00
Fruit & Cheese Display………………….. $ 189.00
Bruschetta………………………………………. $ 89.00
Capri Kabobs…………………………………. $ 97.00
Relish Tray, vegetable dip……………….. $ 77.00
Fresh Fruit Kabobs, yogurt dip…….. $ 159.00
Plus about 25% for tax and gratuity.
We are having around 175 or so guests. How much does everyone think we need?
Post # 54
my thought exactly.
I wouldn’t stop for food & would be surprised to find no food at a cocktail hour.
Post # 55
I wouldn’t tempt fate with this one. I know of a wedding where this was the case and a second cousin had to be wheeled out in a wheel chair (provided by the venue!)
Post # 56
If you’re serving drinks you really should have something to soak up the alcohol or else you may not like how drunk people get very quickly! That said, it doesn’t have to be fancy. Also, when your cockail hour is 6-7, and reception starts at 7, usually dinner doesn’t start immediately at 7…there’s usually a few first dances maybe speeches etc, there’s often up to a full hour before people get “real” food
Post # 57
when we were planning, we were told 3 to 4 per person. I think if you’re going to do it, go for the cheapest option, no one will frown at cheese and crackers, they’ll be happy there is food!
Now that I’ve reread your OP, if the cocktail thing is at 6, then they would be eating at 7 anyhow? That way I think you could get away without food. The hour before dinner is served isn’t long enough for people to get drunk, and by the time they have had a drink or two the food will be there.
Can you word it like reception begins at 6 with cocktails, dinner to follow at 7? That way i don’t think it’s as implied that foodwill be there as “cocktail hour @ 5 – dinner at 7”. Putting ideas for nice places to grab an afternoon snack is a good idea that was previously mentioned as well.
Or – what if you just say reception begins at 6, and serve drinks without mentioning it?
Post # 58
I’m kind of with the other posters and am a little confused as to why you need a cocktail hour with such a large gap between the ceremony/reception. Could you possibly add on your invite (one of the insert cards–not the actual invite itself) that “Reception will follow at ABC venue. Doors will open at 6:30pm and dinner will be served at 7:00pm. This gives guests the ability to show up a little early to find their seats (and arrive before dinner) but it also lets them know that the only food being served is dinner.
Post # 59
You mentioned they’d let you do outside desserts. Could you set up a table with some less-sweet desserts (think muffins, sweet croissants, etc.)?
Could you talk to your venue and say, “listen, we are willing to pay you money for a more reasonable option, what can you do to help us out”? Or maybe they could charge you a serving fee to hand out cheese/crackers you bought?
And, this might be a little weird and would probably only work with a smaller party, but could you skip the cocktail hour and serve a quick bite to eat at the church? Maybe do one of those food bars that are all over pinterest (punch and finger sandwiches haha!).
OR – and far less crazy – you could make up little cards listing places “to grab a quick bite between “I do” and dinner” and place them on the chairs before the wedding (or put this information in your program)…
Don’t be worried, there are lots of options 🙂
Post # 60
+1. I’m amazed that so many people see appetizers as a “necessity.” Although I shouldn’t be, because on another thread, people thought kindergarteners should be able to eat adult options.
If I was going to a ceremony at 1, and then a cocktail hour at 6, I would DEFINITELY eat something in between that time. It seems like a logical thing.
But if you think there will be problems, do you need to have a cocktail hour? Or could you have a cocktail “half-hour?”
Post # 61
hahaha I love that you referenced/burned that other board. Hilarious.