(Closed) No Food at Cocktail Hour?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are hors d'oerves at a cocktail hour a necessity?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 62
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @louvelove:  This really reminded me of it – the sense of entitlement some people have over food! 🙂

    Post # 63
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @pierce8:  I’ve been to weddings where they didn’t serve hor d’ouerves at cocktail hour. People got really drunk before dinner, toasts were awkward, and the party ended early because a) conservative guests left when people got drunk, and b) soon after, the drunk guests left too.

    Post # 64
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I agree with trying to cut the budget, or maybe expand your budget.

    Booze without food is bad.. and I’d be a little upset if there was not at least a little something to snack on.

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @pierce8:  I’d suggest talking with your venue about how many each item serves of the ones you listed.  The cheese and crackers and the fruit would be totally fine for cocktail hour.  I’ve been to lots of cocktail hours that were just cheese and crackers or fruit with cheese and crackers.  It might be a good option for you to keep costs under control, while making sure people aren’t drinking without a little food to absorb it. 

    Post # 66
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    Wannabee

    @pierce8 I think I would opt out of the cocktail hour all together and just have the reception start at 6… even if dinner isn’t served until 630 or 7… i just wouldnt call it “cocktail hour” so there isn’t that implication.

    Post # 67
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree with several PPs that you might be better off to just pass on a cocktail hour altogether. I typically only expect this if photos are delaying the beginning of dinner, which won’t be an issue for you guys. I like the idea of welcome bags (maybe have them at the back of the church on the way out with a cute name and cute little personalized take-out boxes with a few little snacks & maybe a list of nearby parks, attractions, etc. to kill the down time) or light snacks before dinner (I would insist on negotiating a more reasonable price… your venue sounds like they’re taking advantage here. I mean, really, $3 PER SHRIMP?!?! I don’t pay that at most 5-star restaurants!)

     

    Another option might be to have them set the tables “family style” so there will already be bread, salad, crudités, etc on each table at dinner when guests arrive. If the bar is open, at least you’ll have a little nibble available for the people who need to have something in their tummies when they drink. Then there is a natural flow without the added expense of a traditional “cocktail hour.” I don’t think anyone will miss it. It sounds like you have a wonderful meal planned!

    Post # 68
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Not sure if pps have asked, but could you DIY the cocktail hour food?

    My step mum did som fruit, kebana, cheeses, dip and cracker platters for our e-party and people LOVED them. That’ll be the only food at our cocktail hour.

    Post # 70
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I feel like if you are having guests attending your ceremony & celebration all day, then it’s gracious to offer them appetizers. 

     

    Maybe it’s a regional thing, but food is the last thing I would cut costs on.  I cut way back on flowers and concentrated on the things that would improve my guests overall experience (as well as the fact that I love appetizers).

    Post # 71
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    Busy bee

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    @geekspice:  

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    @pierce8:  

    ditto to drunk guests. I have low tolernece so if I don’t have some starchy food in my system, you’ll see me passed out after 5 drinks lol 

    what are the cheaper options?

    Post # 72
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I know on LI, cocktail hour is hands down, the BEST part of the food for a wedding!!! I usually go to a wedding really hungry bc usually there’s selections of penne w veggies, ala vodka, seafood paella, carving board meats, cheeses, fruits, sushi, mashed potato bars…..CH is usually enough for dinner, here, so I’d be confused and disappointed if there wasn’t food at CH. 

    Post # 73
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

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    @pierce8:  I think what oyu have is good and you can sub the shrimp for something less expensive.

     

    At 700 pieces (7 items x 100 items each) you should be good as that is 4 pieces per person.

     

    If you want ot try to avoid the expense though you could emphasize that FOOD WILL BE SERVED AT 7pm

     

    That way everyone knows there will be nothing until then. Don’t state “Cocktail hour” on your invitation, just that the reception begins at 6, dinner/food to be served at 7.

    Post # 74
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    Sugar bee

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    @pierce8:  If you’re concerned about the cost, go with the least expensive options. Even a few crackers and pieces of cheese with a couple of drinks will keep people from being starved/smashed. Cheese and crackers and fruit display would be fine.

    Post # 75
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    Busy bee

    Consider that if dinner starts at 7, you may not get to eating until 7:30-8 if all of the speaches and toasts are towards the front.

     

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    @WhatMaeBee:  I’m having a LI wedding and I totally concur and +1 you. I feel like our lobster cookout will be subpar to the apps being passed around. I’m literally having a first look so I can eat everything!

    Word of advice for what people remember about weddings: cut flowers! cut favors! cut the invitations that people will throw out anyway!

    People are going to remember weather the food was good or not.

    Post # 76
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think a lot of regional differences are coming out in this thread.  In the midwest, where the OP is having her wedding, tons of food during cocktail hour is not the norm.  I had never heard of such a thing until I saw an episode of 4 Weddings and thought WTF?  Why bother serving that much food before dinner?  Seems a waste. 

    And no, people don’t get plastered during cocktail hour if there isn’t food.  It’s an hour — it’s hard to get down more than a drink or two in an hour when there are lots of people to talk to and the bar is usually really busy. 

     

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