Post # 1
I’ve been going back and forth between doing bubbles or DIYing ribbon wands for our grand exit (no sparklers are allowed at the venue). After looking around, gathering ideas, I’ve come across another option: no formal exit at all. The idea is appealing to me now because a) I’m not attached to either the bubble or wand idea b) one less thing to worry about 😛 and c) we are planning to stay the entire time of our reception ’till the very end and then attend our after party downtown. In fact, the only real value I can place on an exit would be for more photo opportunities (though I can imagine several guests would be gone already and since it’s at night, I’m not expecting the photos to be the best ever) and also, I’ve always saw the send-off exit as a kind of signaling that the party is over.
So my question is… if we don’t have a formal exit, how do we officially proclaim it’s the end of the reception, haha? Aside from just having the DJ announce for everyone to go home, or just have an awkward “now what” moment, “I guess we just go home?”. Any ideas for an ending? Perhaps a bride and groom “last song”?
Post # 2
I’m pro no formal exit. Since you’re having an after party, have the DJ announce the last song and maybe at the end you/DJ can say something like “alright thats a wrap for this location, head over to XYZ club to continue the party”.
I do like the idea of having a special last song.
Post # 3
I agree with having the DJ/emcee say something. Ours mentioned it was the last song, told everyone where to go next and then we danced the song and the lights came on, and that was it!
As for the ribbon wands- they are a PITA. We did them for our church exit and a lot of hours were poured into those things. So if you don’t love them or aren’t committed, don’t do it! They were the biggest chore. But we couldn’t throw anything and I didn’t like bubbles, so we slogged through them. They weren’t my favorite, but the pics turned out okay.
Post # 4
Agree with the DJ/MC making an annoucement “last call for drinks/last song”.
I’m putting right in the program what time the party is over lol and I have the shuttle arranged to take people back to the hotel a half hour before that. Once the shuttle leaves, I think people will get the hint and start filing out.
Post # 5
The MC/DJ should make a last call for alcohol (if there is a bar) about 30-15 mins before the end of the event, depending on your venue policies. And they usually also announce the last song/dance for the evening.
This is a signal to everyone to start gathering their stuff and saying goodbyes without saying “Party is done, get out!” lol. We did not have a formal exit either
Post # 6
DJ just announces last song. We all dance and pack up and walk out the door together. You can have them announce the after party.
Don’t do the whole staged exit before you actually leave. It kills the party by interrupting it and it’s just awkward af. I’ve never seen it not be awkward.
Post # 7
We didn’t have a formal exit, we just ended when the band stopped playing. I can’t remember whether they announced it was the last song or not but I think it was “Last Dance” so that was pretty obvious. I didn’t need or want my photographer to stay till the bitter end (we went till midnight) and I wasn’t interested in faking an “exit” just for photos either.
Post # 8
A lot of weddings I’ve been to play Semisonic’s “Closing Time” song so everyone knows its the end.
At that time, I would say most people have already left the reception and you have about 20-30 people hanging out finishing up drinks.
Post # 9
I have been to dozens and dozens of weddings and none have had any kind of grand exit and there has never been any confusion. The dj just announces “this is the last song” —-most people already kind of know because it’s like midnight and they aren’t stupid.
Post # 10
If the bar has stopped serving alcohol and the DJ announces the last song, people will leave. If people linger too long, the venue can turn on all the lights and start cleaning up. But really, most people will be long gone by then. Your remaining friends will see that the party is over and you are heading to the afterparty.
Post # 11
We’re not doing formal exit, everyone just parties, the DJ announces last song, and then everyone leaves together after. A formal exit kinda weird because you’re expecting your guests to stay after they see you out, but IMO a wedding is a party hosted by the bride and groom and as the hosts you should be the last to leave.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
My husband and I didn’t do an exit, we just let the DJ know to announce the last song and then we split, lol.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2019 - Philadelphia, PA
A couple of weddings I’ve been to, the DJ announced last song and the bride and groom danced in the middle while the guests were arm in arm circling them. That was really cute. It was to Billy Joel’s Piano Man. And my fiance’s mom and husband had the DJ announce last song and then ask all remaining guests to gather for a picture. I like that idea also.