Post # 1
I wasn’ t sure where to post this…. so emotional sounded best.
I’m wondering if there are any other bees out there in a situation similar to mine. I don’t really have any friends. My sister is my maid of honor, my neices my flower girls. My fiance has two brothers, and two best friends for the bridal party. Even at the reception I’ll have 3 friends from work. I get along good with them, but have never really hung out with them outside of work.
So I guess I’m just feeling weird. Other than a few of his friends, our small wedding will mostly be family. I’m used to having no friends on a day to day basis, since we usually keep to ourselves and family, but with a wedding it seems kind of, obvious, that I don’t have any friends. I guess I’m just looking for some support/different views from other bees.
Post # 3
I also only have a few friends, and while sometimes I wish I was more of an extrovert, I remember something my mom told me when I was a teenager… “You can count your real friends on one hand”
From my experience this is true. Cherish the few friends and your family that you DO have. All the rest are nice to have, but usually people only have a few real friends that they can count on, you know? At least you have people that love you, right?
By The Way — I wanted to add, that sometimes family can be our friends… And I’m sure as your FI’s friends get married, you’ll make a couple of new ones.
Another edit: My mom is my best friend, and I have another bestie… but I only see her 1-2 every month or so..
I dont think it’s so weird to have a wedding with mostly family. These are the people that love you!
Post # 4
I don’t have many friends either, atleast not real close ones that can help me with stuff. sigh. Wanna be friends? (: he he
Post # 5
omg yes! haha. i’m making my fiance do all the DIY stuff with me, thankfully he doesn’t mind.
my fiance is my best friend! hehe but my sister and i are close too. there are some things you tell your sister that you’d NEVER tell your mom ahha
Post # 6
Me too.. I guess I’m kind of an introvert, even so much as meeting the last several boyfriends, including Fiance online. I own my own company and work from home by myself, and so most of my acquaintences are people that I hire now and then…or instructors I’ve taken classes or lessons from. I moved to LA from across the country and don’t really keep up with anyone there. I thought knowing lots of people in college out here would’ve lasted, but I’m finding that with the economy as it is, most of the people I met out here have had to move back to wherever they came from.
Fiance on the other hand, was born and raised out here and is from a huge family, and basically still knows everyone he ever met in his life because they’re all in CA. I was worried for a minute that my fam would feel weird about paying for a large wedding when probably 70% of it will be his people (I could make it 50/50 if I stretched…but why cut out people he actually knows to pad out my side with people I hardly know…)
At this point I just try to look at it like this – I’m gaining all of these people through him, and that’s wonderful. So I don’t look at it as his side/my side, but our new community…and maybe only a few people at our wedding will have known me as a child, but all the new people will know me as his wife, and that’s going to be a whole new beginning 🙂
Post # 7
I’m the same. I’m a very shy person and introvert and making friends is so difficult for me. I have moved states as well and the only people I know are through my DH. I really only have one close friend (in a different state) and my mum is my closest friend. I know how you feel re the wedding making it noticeable that you don’t have friends. We struggled with a guest list and had a very small wedding (27 including us – and most were my family).
So I’m sorry I can’t make you feel better – but, you’re not alone!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! No, its good to just simply feel not alone. It’s weird. I’m not really an introvert, I’m just… anti-social i guess. Or i’m just strange!
I too met my fiance online, shhh! I’m just not good at meeting people hehe. I’m happy with our wedding, I’m just afraid of the misconceptions I suppose, or feeling a little left out with his whole family and few friends, and my like, no friends haha
Post # 9
I don’t know maybe I am weird but I have always thought that what everyone else calls ‘friends” are really just acquaintances. I find it strange when people say I have 200 friends! I have 2 close friends then maybe 5 friends everyone else I just classify as acquaintances. I only invited my two close friends to my wedding everyone else was family. My hubby is the same- has a core group of close friends and everyone else is just an acquaintance.
I would rather know two or three people really well than 200 people minutely.
Post # 10
I’m anti-social too. I just can’t keep a conversation going, and mostly don’t want to 🙁 ugh. I also met DH online… online conversations I can do lol. However it took 2 years to meet up with him in person and another 6 months after that to answer the phone when he called.
Post # 11
I have a small group of friends – most of my friends now are mutal aquaintances. I only have 6 of my own friends going. One is my best friend who is a bridesmaid.
Post # 12
i agree. Internet is easy! and i loathe the phone!
Thats a really good point.. I have 3 acquaintances and two friends. But my friends are him and my sister!
I’m sure I’m just looking into this too much. It’s just weird seeing people having HUGE bridal parties, and I’m sitting there thinking, geez, i don’t even have enough friends for a QUARTER of that! haha
Post # 13
Dear, you are NOT alone in this! Our wedding is a family-only event and even if it wasn’t, i would have maybe 6 friends whom i considerer close enough to invite..and some of them i don’t see for years!
Fortunatelly i contact a lot of people at work, with whom i have a good, friendly relationship although we don’t meet after work. I sometimes miss the girly chat, the free laughter while having a tea, etc..sigh..fortunatelly i have a wonderful family who keep me busy and very, very good friends online 🙂
Post # 14
I know exactly what you mean. I had surgery and was home for 2 weeks and only one person called me everyday to check on me. She didn’t stop by the house to visit because of her kids but I had no one to stop by or call. I was really bummed about it.
Post # 15
No real close friends here. I talk to co-workers at work and we get along, but we don’t exist to one another outside of work. There are days I am completely fine with it. The other days I become depressed and hate the fact that I don’t have someone to call up and hang out with. It does save me a ton of drama though. That always seems to gravitate towards me. 🙁
Post # 16
yesss. I completely agree!