(Closed) No friends…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I also only have a few friends, and while sometimes I wish I was more of an extrovert, I remember something my mom told me when I was a teenager… “You can count your real friends on one hand”

From my experience this is true. Cherish the few friends and your family that you DO have. All the rest are nice to have, but usually people only have a few real friends that they can count on, you know? At least you have people that love you, right? 

By The Way — I wanted to add, that sometimes family can be our friends… And I’m sure as your FI’s friends get married, you’ll make a couple of new ones. 

Another edit: My mom is my best friend, and I have another bestie… but I only see her 1-2 every month or so.. 

I dont think it’s so weird to have a wedding with mostly family. These are the people that love you!

Post # 4
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t have many friends either, atleast not real close ones that can help me with stuff. sigh. Wanna be friends? (: he he

Post # 6
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95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Me too.. I guess I’m kind of an introvert, even so much as meeting the last several boyfriends, including Fiance online. I own my own company and work from home by myself, and so most of my acquaintences are people that I hire now and then…or instructors I’ve taken classes or lessons from. I moved to LA from across the country and don’t really keep up with anyone there. I thought knowing lots of people in college out here would’ve lasted, but I’m finding that with the economy as it is, most of the people I met out here have had to move back to wherever they came from. 

Fiance on the other hand, was born and raised out here and is from a huge family, and basically still knows everyone he ever met in his life because they’re all in CA. I was worried for a minute that my fam would feel weird about paying for a large wedding when probably 70% of it will be his people (I could make it 50/50 if I stretched…but why cut out people he actually knows to pad out my side with people I hardly know…) 

At this point I just try to look at it like this – I’m gaining all of these people through him, and that’s wonderful. So I don’t look at it as his side/my side, but our new community…and maybe only a few people at our wedding will have known me as a child, but all the new people will know me as his wife, and that’s going to be a whole new beginning ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 7
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m the same. I’m a very shy person and introvert and making friends is so difficult for me. I have moved states as well and the only people I know are through my Darling Husband. I really only have one close friend (in a different state) and my mum is my closest friend. I know how you feel re the wedding making it noticeable that you don’t have friends. We struggled with a guest list and had a very small wedding (27 including us – and most were my family).

So I’m sorry I can’t make you feel better – but, you’re not alone!

Post # 9
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8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I don’t know maybe I am weird but I have always thought that what everyone else calls ‘friends” are really just acquaintances. I find it strange when people say I have 200 friends! I have 2 close friends then maybe 5 friends everyone else I just classify as acquaintances. I only invited my two close friends to my wedding everyone else was family. My hubby is the same- has a core group of close friends and everyone else is just an acquaintance.

I would rather know two or three people really well than 200 people minutely.

 

Post # 10
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363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Miarose:  I’m anti-social too. I just can’t keep a conversation going, and mostly don’t want to ๐Ÿ™ ugh. I also met Darling Husband online… online conversations I can do lol. However it took 2 years to meet up with him in person and another 6 months after that to answer the phone when he called.

Post # 11
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have a small group of friends – most of my friends now are mutal aquaintances. I only have 6 of my own friends going. One is my best friend who is a bridesmaid.

Post # 13
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1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Dear, you are NOT alone in this! Our wedding is a family-only event and even if it wasn’t, i would have maybe 6 friends whom i considerer close enough to invite..and some of them i don’t see for years!

Fortunatelly i contact a lot of people at work, with whom i have a good, friendly relationship although we don’t meet after work. I sometimes miss the girly chat, the free laughter while having a tea, etc..sigh..fortunatelly i have a wonderful family who keep me busy and very, very good friends online ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I know exactly what you mean.  I had surgery and was home for 2 weeks and only one person called me everyday to check on me.  She didn’t stop by the house to visit because of her kids but I had no one to stop by or call.  I was really bummed about it.

Post # 15
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9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

No real close friends here.  I talk to co-workers at work and we get along, but we don’t exist to one another outside of work.  There are days I am completely fine with it.  The other days I become depressed and hate the fact that I don’t have someone to call up and hang out with.  It does save me a ton of drama though.  That always seems to gravitate towards me.  ๐Ÿ™

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