(Closed) No friends…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
Member
1085 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah it kinda felt like a punch to the gut when my Fiance asked if I would be inviting any friends to the wedding. Because he knows I don’t have many… I’ve moved over 30 times in my life and do have about 4 really close friends through the years that are invited but that’s it, other than that is family on my side.

But when we went over his guest list, he only had about 10 friends he was inviting. Still more than me and it kind of made me want to just invite any female acquaintance I had to make up the slack but really… My family they are my closest friends. If I find a few along the wedding planning road, maybe I will invite them but most importantly is that my family that I love dearly be there for me on such an important day.

My Fiance is my best friend, and in reality pretty much my only friend in our state, and I’m ok with that. We spent the last 2.5 years getting to know eachother and building this strong relationship and the next year is full of wedding planning, I don’t have much time to make friends and I’m alright with that. I don’t know if that’s the most “stable” response but hey, it’s mine and his wedding, not the random people I meet.

Post # 35
Member
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am DEFINITELY in a similar situation (as you just read). My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor.. and I have 1 bridesmaid.. who isn’t really a good friend.. I had the same dilemma! It’s definitely a tough situation…. the wedding makes you really look at stuff like that. My goal is to try and make more friends and I am doing better.. but it is tough. Makes me realize I need to put myself out there more!

 

Either way — I am sure your day will be beautiful! All that matters is that your family and those that are close with you are there. 🙂

Post # 36
Member
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i know the feeling, alot of it has to do with me having social anxiety. i only have 1 female friend and 1 male friend i talk to. my bridesmaids will probably be relatives. kinda bummed that i dont have a group of friends to invite for a bridal shower/bachelorette party when the time comes.

ive started attending meetup groups to make new girlfriends, its a start. its kinda wierd to be 28 and making new friends at this stage in my life now.

Post # 37
Member
4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t really have any friends either. I’m very introverted and I can’t stand social interaction. I have two friends, one lives an hour away, the other two hours away, so I very rarely see them because they both have children. For me, I noticed it since I moved. I have to do everything myself because FH works all the time and sometimes it would be nice to help my more decorative friend here to help. The wedding issue used to get to me too. My guest list was dismal as I’m only close to a few members of my family and I have very few friends.

I don’t have any advice for you, but there’s nothing wrong with a mostly family affair. There MIGHT be 30 people at my wedding, including FH and I, and the vast majority of those will be family.

Post # 38
Member
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Its hard making friends as an adult! I have my Maid/Matron of Honor, best friend since 7th grade. I have my two sisters filling out the bridal party. My only other real friend lives across the country, so I only see her once every few years.

Post # 40
Member
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

View original reply
@Miarose:  yeah i know what you mean, ive been to one meetup so far and i was so socially akward, i couldnt outright say ‘lets be friends’ if only it were that easy and non creepy looking lol. im hoping ill get into a groove with more meetups with these group of girls where i feel comfortable, but we’ll see.

my fi wants 5 groomsmen, and i can maybe pull 2 relatives out of the hat that i want to be  my BMs, im kinda ocd about keeping things even. so i dont think that would transfer well in pictures. my 2 bridesmaids next to his 5 groomsmen.

 

Post # 41
Member
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

View original reply
@Rouquine:  Oh my god, we ARE twins! I was thinking that we were pretty similar from the “how often do you talk to your parents?” thread. 

I, too, don’t have a lot of friends because I’ve had to forcefully remove people from my life. I attract drama and it is so annoying. I had a small group of friends in middle school/high school, but I always got the feeling that they never really liked me. They always tried to exclude me from things and I didn’t really have anything in common with them. I made TONS of friends on another forum that I’ve been posting on for over 10 years (!!!!), met many of them, and am inviting a few to the wedding. Actually, my Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my bridesmaids are from those forums.

Fiance, on the other hand, as a MILLION friends and a HUGE family. He was upset that he had to cut down his party, but I had to have him cut it down because I really struggled to find five people to stand for me (and one of them is his sister). Most of “our” friends are really his friends. It sucks because I know for a fact that the girls in that group still invite his (awful) ex to stuff and would go out with her alone, and I barely get asked to come along to things with him. Mrgh.

Post # 42
Member
2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My bridal party is the one major thing I stress about when I think of a wedding. I have quite a few friends, but none that are particularly close, or closer than the other. The all seem to be equally not really good friends and not really distant fiends… if that makes sense. I don’t har any sisters and only one close female cousin, so I have no clue what to do :/ 

Post # 43
Member
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I work such long hours and my few friends are trusted colleagues. but I don’t think I could call them a friend. We all have busy lives and thinks rarely cross outside of work. 

Post # 45
Member
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

View original reply
@Rouquine:  

Sending you a bear HUG!!! I have days i feel like that, too..a loser..when compared with other women who go out for dinners and events with a lot of friends

Post # 46
Member
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

View original reply
@Mrs.LaFountain:  

You’re absolutely right 🙂 I LOVE to nest in the sofa with Fiance, savouring a nice Port wine while watching a good film..with the right person, even SILENCE is so full with aweet meanings 🙂 Evem if the phone doesn’t ring much

The topic ‘No friends…’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors